Please help

carriebradshaw

winniepooh wrote: »

Shopping.... he says hes allergic to supermarkets.

Thats a good idea hun thank you.

tell him if he doesn't help you shop, he doesn't get to eat either,that's what worked for me anyway

katiesmummy

the plastic cartons that a lot of chinese takeaways use are really good- you can buy them in pound shops in packs of 10. old ice cream tubs, margarine tubs are also good if you have them lying round the house

as for your oh, i had the same problem when i started being os, and it is still a learning curve for him tbh. one thing he wont do is come shopping with me as he hates it when i rummage around on the reduced shelves (he looks around to make sure that nobody we know is about!).

one thing you could maybe do is to put the money you save on shopping over a month in a jar so that he can actually see how much less you are spending.

re the eating habits- i didnt have a huge problem with this as my oh is a human dustbin and will eat almost anything i put in front of him, but like your oh, he does love his meat. i tend to watch out in my local supermarket for reduced meat- around 3-4pm on a sunday is a really good time to go as everything is really really cheap. i then seperate everything into food bags and freeze. i got a huge joint of beef from sainsburys last week for £4 reduced from £14 and it was enough for 3 sunday dinners.
i only buy full price meat if its on offer (bogof etc)
if he is a label junkie, try buying the next label down (i.e. if you buy kellogs cornflakes buy a box of supermarket brand) but put the own brand into the label packet iykwim. one thing my oh insists on is nescafe coffee as he says that supermarket own brands taste horrible- little does he know the jar of nescafe was finished ages ago and i have been filling it up with tesco coffee ha ha

i hope that some of that waffle helps you- if he is really reluctant to adapt, i agree with others, withdraw conjugul rights and he will soon be singing a different tune

Sunnyday

Hiya,
Does your hubby cook?
Mine dosent:D he`s rubbish and if i didn`t cook he would have to live on boiled eggs and beans on toast.
If i cook something and he dosen`t like it i don`t make anything else so he has to go without.
The moaning stopped quite quickly when he realised there was no alternative but to make himself a sandwich and as he couldn`t be bothered most of the time he started eating things anyway.
TBH this rarely happened but i was prepared if it did, the mealtime converstations these days are usually me asking if he likes something enough for me to make again, if not i`ll bin that recipe and try another but i won`t waste anything.
Good luck, it`s all about educating him and in the end he will appreciate all the trouble that you have gone to and you will both be healthier and wealthier.
SD

ubamother

would a conversation that went along the lines of "if we save £40 a week on food shopping by x date we will have x £ to spend on xxx" help? sometimes putting it in terms of cold hard cash saved to spend on something nice can help. By the time you've reached this goal some of your new eating style will have become normal to him and will be carried on automatically.

Magentasue

Over the years, our financial situation has been up and down. Deep down, I have an OS core that goes back to my childhood but when money's not so tight, I'm less frugal. When the shopping budget has to be radically reduced, it's the kids that complain - but your OH's attitude sounds very similar!

I've found keeping quiet, serving it up with a 'that's all there is' works in the medium term. Fortunately, our downturn in finances always coincides with me not working so there is the compensation of more puddings and baking.

Going to Lidl was very unpopular - 'I'm not eating that rubbish' but once we'd weeded out the few really rubbish items, they found most of it was as good as they were used to and, in some cases, better.

Don't weaken! Just maintain a 'that's how it is' stance.

winniepooh

katiesmummy wrote: »

the plastic cartons that a lot of chinese takeaways use are really good- you can buy them in pound shops in packs of 10. old ice cream tubs, margarine tubs are also good if you have them lying round the house

Thanks thats a brillant idea

as for your oh, i had the same problem when i started being os, and it is still a learning curve for him tbh. one thing he wont do is come shopping with me as he hates it when i rummage around on the reduced shelves (he looks around to make sure that nobody we know is about!).

one thing you could maybe do is to put the money you save on shopping over a month in a jar so that he can actually see how much less you are spending.

re the eating habits- i didnt have a huge problem with this as my oh is a human dustbin and will eat almost anything i put in front of him, but like your oh, he does love his meat. i tend to watch out in my local supermarket for reduced meat- around 3-4pm on a sunday is a really good time to go as everything is really really cheap. i then seperate everything into food bags and freeze. i got a huge joint of beef from sainsburys last week for £4 reduced from £14 and it was enough for 3 sunday dinners.
i only buy full price meat if its on offer (bogof etc)
if he is a label junkie, try buying the next label down (i.e. if you buy kellogs cornflakes buy a box of supermarket brand) but put the own brand into the label packet iykwim. one thing my oh insists on is nescafe coffee as he says that supermarket own brands taste horrible- little does he know the jar of nescafe was finished ages ago and i have been filling it up with tesco coffee ha ha.

Well hubby has started moaning about toilet roll :rolleyes: so yesterday a went out to tesco and brought tescos own brand toilet roll, emptied them out of the packet into the airing cupboard...... he hasnt noticed yet

i hope that some of that waffle helps you- if he is really reluctant to adapt, i agree with others, withdraw conjugul rights and he will soon be singing a different tune

I think i'm going to try the local butchers for meat.

mummysaver

Don't know if this would help, but perhaps you could make a meal plan and ask what he thought of the menu? Then adapt any recipes that seem expensive so that you use less or cheaper ingredients.

Another idea is to make things like lasagnes and shepherds pies in individual or two person portions, and put the rest away before they're noticed, makes everything go further - otherwise in this house the "leftovers" all get eaten, when they could very well make another entire meal!

Good luck!

Phoolgrrrl

My OH wasn't too keen on goin OS either saying things like "I dont know what I want to eat next thursday" but 2 months on he started stopping at the reduced bit with me and looking for offers. We Don't have a joint a/c so he was still able to go to subway etc for lunch but now he only goes when his fav is sub of the day! I think he realised how much I was saving by making lunch and that it wasn't difficult. Also we did GC so kept all receipts at the end of the month we had saved abt £150 so that seemed to hit home.

He did warn me not to mess with his coffee tho.

Meat wise we still have meat most dinners but less of it and more veg/carb part. Also we stock up on meat when on offer or reduced. I bought 2 months of mince when it was 2 for £5 at tesco!

Now instead of having leftovers (freezer not v big) cook less and eat it all.

Once he see the benefits hopefully ur OH will come round, mine did.

winniepooh

Phoolgrrrl wrote: »

My OH wasn't too keen on goin OS either saying things like "I dont know what I want to eat next thursday" but 2 months on he started stopping at the reduced bit with me and looking for offers. We Don't have a joint a/c so he was still able to go to subway etc for lunch but now he only goes when his fav is sub of the day! I think he realised how much I was saving by making lunch and that it wasn't difficult. Also we did GC so kept all receipts at the end of the month we had saved abt £150 so that seemed to hit home.

He did warn me not to mess with his coffee tho.

Meat wise we still have meat most dinners but less of it and more veg/carb part. Also we stock up on meat when on offer or reduced. I bought 2 months of mince when it was 2 for £5 at tesco!

Now instead of having leftovers (freezer not v big) cook less and eat it all.

Once he see the benefits hopefully ur OH will come round, mine did.

Hubby still spends a fortune on his lunch at work........ I want him to start taking packed lunches but I think I will leave it a couple of before springing that one on him. :rolleyes:

spaghetti_monster

I don't really have such a problem with OH (he's a commited money-saver and human dustbin), but before I met him he had a limited diet and cooking abilities.

He occasionally does the nose-screwing-up thing (when i make something right outside his comfort zone!) and I just make fun of him - I think he then feels a bit embarrassed, eats it and usually really likes it! In the end it really is very childish to turn up your nose at food!