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MMD: Should I split my winnings and risk my wedding?
Former_MSE_Naomi
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A friend and I went to the races and he won about £50, which he split with me. On a more recent visit together I won a much larger amount - enough to pay for my forthcoming wedding. He says I should split it with him, but then I won't be able to afford my wedding. Can I get away with giving him a token amount?
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Yes.
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*Yes I am now aware my figure was wrong - oops lol. That'll teach me...*
If you have previously agreed to split winnings, then split.
If not, and maybe he just shared a nice meal with you or something when he won, then I'd give a (generous) token. I find it hard to believe he won it and just gave you half the cash for being there. Or are/were you in a relationship with him? I could understand that - him saying 'go treat yourself' or something.
However, I don't think you 'not being able to afford your wedding' comes into it. What were you planning to do to pay for it before you won the money?! :think:
If you won enough on a horse race to pay for an entire wedding, you must have had the money to put down a hefty bet. Even £100 on a race at 100/1 would only be giving you a grand. I wouldn't dream of spending that on a rank outsider so either it was a favourite at rubbish odds and a massive bet, or you picked winners all day.
I usually give these dilemmas the benefit of the doubt, but this one is stretching the realms of reality...2024 wins: *must start comping again!*0 -
Depends if you want to keep him as a friend
Pay up and you'll resent him
Not pay up and he'll resent you.
If however you both have an understanding that all winnings are split then yes you should split it.0 -
Um yes, you obviously didn't worry when you took his money, precedent is set.0
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If you have previously agreed to split winnings, then split.
If not, and maybe he just shared a nice meal with you or something when he won, then I'd give a (generous) token. I find it hard to believe he won it and just gave you half the cash for being there. Or are/were you in a relationship with him? I could understand that - him saying 'go treat yourself' or something.
However, I don't think you 'not being able to afford your wedding' comes into it. What were you planning to do to pay for it before you won the money?! :think:
If you won enough on a horse race to pay for an entire wedding, you must have had the money to put down a hefty bet. Even £100 on a race at 100/1 would only be giving you a grand. I wouldn't dream of spending that on a rank outsider so either it was a favourite at rubbish odds and a massive bet, or you picked winners all day.
I usually give these dilemmas the benefit of the doubt, but this one is stretching the realms of reality...
Maths not your strong point then?
£100 at 100/1 = £10k.0 -
Yes. You split it before when on a trip to the races together. You split it again now.
How would you feel if he had won £10k on the horses with you winning zero, and he said "Finally I can take my entire family to Florida on holiday". Would you have accepted a token payment?
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