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    • Carl31
    • By Carl31 6th Jul 17, 8:26 PM
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    Teenager and trainers
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    Teenager and trainers 6th Jul 17 at 8:26 PM
    Would you spend 120 quid on a pair of trainers for a 15 year old daughter?

    Opinions on such a purchase greatly received...
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    • jackieblack
    • By jackieblack 6th Jul 17, 8:41 PM
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    No I wouldn't.
    I would give her the cost of a 'regular' pair and if she wanted the more expensive ones she could pay the difference herself whether that be by saving up her pocket money/ allowance/ earnings from part time job/chores etc
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    • Owain Moneysaver
    • By Owain Moneysaver 6th Jul 17, 9:11 PM
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    Not blinkin likely.

    I wouldn't spend £150 on five pairs of trainers for myself.
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    • Carl31
    • By Carl31 6th Jul 17, 10:17 PM
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    thanks for the replies, glad i am not the only one, shame the wife didn't agree

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    • Caroline_a
    • By Caroline_a 7th Jul 17, 1:03 PM
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    Are these for fashion or for sport? If for sport then I would answer maybe, but if she never goes near any sorting of sporting activity it would be a resounding no!
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    • By Owain Moneysaver 7th Jul 17, 9:08 PM
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    I shall go to bed tonight defeated and dissapointed
    Originally posted by Carl31

    At least you're not sleeping in the shed
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    • martinthebandit
    • By martinthebandit 7th Jul 17, 9:20 PM
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    I shall go to bed tonight defeated and dissapointed
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    • Spendless
    • By Spendless 8th Jul 17, 7:04 AM
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    My 14yo bought herself some trainers earlier this year but with birthday money she'd received.

    I can't remember the cost, but believe it was significantly higher than what I'd pay for her to use as a fashion item just as a treat.

    Because it was her money though she looked around for the best deal and found a pair she liked on sale.
    • Money maker
    • By Money maker 8th Jul 17, 7:50 AM
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    If kids know the value of money then they wouldn't ask for shoes so expensive. Both my teenage boys were non-label orientated and used to laugh at those stupid enough to spend big on a label.
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    • DigForVictory
    • By DigForVictory 8th Jul 17, 8:52 AM
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    May I suggest introducing the idea of a Budget?

    My lads now get very few surprises at Christmas since we instituted that concept - here is £X quid. Yes sure you can have that gruesome loud offensive piece of plastic from toys r us, bu that would be All You Get as it costs £X. Whereas if (like your brother) you wanted an MP3 player & headphones, then you couldn't have The Thing too, & he has money left for more presents so which would you rather have one big thing or several little ones?

    They *even* realise that using MSE, cashback sites & general google-fu, I can often find that 'thing' for less than the RRP.

    We've long since taught them that a "Label" (usually just) adds to the price, so it's worth being able to recognise them just to enjoy them from the charity shop.

    Budget - concept for this month & defeat & disappointment will be less of an issue this Christmas. Daughter may learn enough to lead Mother down paths of righteousness?! (So Much Safer that way!)
    • cjdavies
    • By cjdavies 8th Jul 17, 11:50 PM
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    I did when i was that age but it was it was my own money, never do it now.
    • seven-day-weekend
    • By seven-day-weekend 9th Jul 17, 6:55 AM
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    If kids know the value of money then they wouldn't ask for shoes so expensive. Both my teenage boys were non-label orientated and used to laugh at those stupid enough to spend big on a label.
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    My son never cared either.
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    • By Spendless 9th Jul 17, 8:09 AM
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    My son never cared either.
    Originally posted by seven-day-weekend
    Neither did mine and still doesn't age 17. My daughter is a different matter however.......
    • meer53
    • By meer53 9th Jul 17, 1:41 PM
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    Neither of my kids have either but it's the luck of the draw i think. I'm pleased they didn't as i can't afford stuff like that. My daughter( 17 next week) wanted some Timberland boots for Christmas last year, not for the label, she just likes them, i used Quidco and got them in the Office sale for just over £100 they were her main present, normally she's happy with Primark stuff which suits me ! I'd hate to feel under pressure to buy what they want but if you can afford it, and they appreciate it then i probably would. If they throw tantrums if you say no, then i'd dig my heels in. My daughter has a part time job and quite often we negotiate how much she is going to contribute if it's something expensive, otherwise she knows she's paying so it's off to Primark !
    • nearlyrich
    • By nearlyrich 9th Jul 17, 10:56 PM
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    No I wouldn't.
    I would give her the cost of a 'regular' pair and if she wanted the more expensive ones she could pay the difference herself whether that be by saving up her pocket money/ allowance/ earnings from part time job/chores etc
    Originally posted by jackieblack

    This was my stance 15 years ago my DD decided the expensive ones were not worth the extra and she only did it once..
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    • jackieblack
    • By jackieblack 11th Jul 17, 6:24 PM
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    This was my stance 15 years ago my DD decided the expensive ones were not worth the extra and she only did it once..
    Originally posted by nearlyrich
    Ditto.
    We started when she wanted the school shoes with the flashing lights in the heels and progressed using the same principle throughout the teenage years.

    Her dad is now using the same regarding her wedding - he's given her the maximum he can afford (enough to pay for a perfectly good wedding at a local venue) they want a country manor house and a few other fancy bells and whistles so are paying the difference themselves.
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    • kerri gt
    • By kerri gt 11th Jul 17, 8:36 PM
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    Are these for fashion or for sport? If for sport then I would answer maybe, but if she never goes near any sorting of sporting activity it would be a resounding no!
    Originally posted by Caroline_a
    I do somewhat agree with this, depending on the sport and commitment level to it - I paid about $120 for my most recent running trainers and have done over 500 miles in them (due to be replaced). Fashion trainers = £40 for me

    I would suggest she has a budget of X and if she wants something more than that, she needs to contribute the difference.
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    • Lorian
    • By Lorian 11th Jul 17, 9:44 PM
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    Converse might be a suitable acceptable alternative. Still expensive IMHO but less than those trainers....
    • Rachel83
    • By Rachel83 30th Jul 17, 9:02 AM
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    Mine get a bog standard 'allowance' for trainers they have to make up this amount from pocket money if they want the 'it' pair. She's 12 and her brother will have the same rules... He's 8 (the only thing he cares about at the moment is Pok!mon cards!)
    • TBagpuss
    • By TBagpuss 30th Jul 17, 5:17 PM
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    Growing up, my siblings and I changed from getting pocket money to getting a clothing allowance, when we became teenagers. We were given a lump sum once every 3 months, and got to chose how to budget and spend it.

    Our parents paid for school uniforms, school shoes, and a winter coat. And for essential school equipment

    We got to chose how we spent the rest - clothes, shoes, make-up / toiletries, leisure activities etc.

    It worked really well, as we could chose what we wanted, so if you decided you wanted the expensive trainers you could have them, but that might mean you couldn't have anything else new. And no grumbling at parents allowed, because it was your choice, not theirs!

    It was also really useful to us longer term as it meant we got experience at budgeting and planing, and I think that did help us to avoid making bigger and longer-lasting mistakes when we were older.

    Maybe you should talk to your wife and suggest something similar, moving forward?
    And perhaps discuss your joint parenting choices, so that you are on the same page. It seems like this is less about whether it's appropriate to buy the trainers and more about having differing views about what's appropriate to spend, and to buy on demand.
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