Hypnosis

Try moodgym - its a free online programme. Hypnosis isn't guaranteed to work, you have to change your thought patterns which CBT/self help will do.

Rowan_moon wrote: »

As a clinical hypnotherapist I have helped people with all kinds of issues, including low self esteem, anxiety, fears etc. A hypnotherapist could help you to explore what the fear is about and suggest ways of releasing it.
Many hypnotherapists will talk to you a bit on the phone about the results you want to get, then they will be able to tell you if they think they can help. You will also be able to decide if they are someone you feel comfortable working with. Some will offer a free consultation which would give you a chance to decide what you think. Better still, if you know anyone who has had good results with a hypnotherapist who is local you could try them.

I second this.

I'm a retired hypnotherapist and have helped 100s of people overcome fears, phobias, anxieties, confidence problems etc. Hypnosis is perfectly safe and a normal process where the discerning and critical conscious is put into a relaxed state so the unconscious can be better 'programmed' to change negative thoughts and behaviour patterns. Most people enter a state of hypnosis every day like day-dreaming or that state in between being asleep and becoming awake. In fact whilst in that dreamy relaxed state if you said to yourself an affirmation along the lines of, "Every day in every way I am getting better and better..." with enough repetitive practice the habit would be formed to think more positively.

What also helps is subliminal tapes which you play before going to sleep. The person induces you into a relaxed state with calming music and while the music plays positive affirmations are spoken which are 'hidden' in the music. It's a very good therapeutic tool.

OldMotherTucker wrote: »

Why not?

When I read your post I had a horribly old familiar feeling that I instantly quelled using a technique I read in a book.:):)
In fact , it was CBT that made me realise why hypnosis wasn't the answer!

Coincidentally we have a relative who's been to various hypnotherapists over the last decade. Apart from dressing flamboyantly she's still alone and unhappy! Sometimes her appointment is the only thing she looks forward to!!

How long have they been going to the therapist? If it's for a great length of time the phenomena of 'transference' has taken place where the therapist has become that 'wonderful' person and the client has formed an attachment so great they almost love that person which is not a healthy therapeutic relationship if it continues for a long time and could very well stop the client from improving until the connection of the transference is broken.