The Garden Fence - help and support in tough times

It isn't raining here today and is 10 degrees I have one load of washing inside on the airer I bought yesterday and two loads on the rotary airer outside:D Another load is in the machine now

More parsnip soup this dinner time, yummy Hubby is apparently cooking tea tonight and we are having corned beef pie, which is from the Paul Hollywood cook book.

Hope everyone is having a great day

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

She's still around. She's been speed-reading/thanking posts on another thread that I suspect is being boycotted somewhat at the moment.:lipsrseal - as its turned nasty at the moment.

These things happen sometimes on MSE...

If you mean the SHTF thread then she posted there yesterday. And you're right, she is thanking posts. I know that 'cos she thanked mine. :beer:

I hope you all have fun if you get to meet up, too far for me, but I'll be with you all in spirit.

You will probably all do well to ignore the rest of my post as it is a full on rant and whinge and of no interest to anyone, but I really need to get it all of my chest.

Hubby is gradually recovering from the loss of his mum, but it has left us with financial problems, we were spending £60 to £80 a week on petrol visiting MIL and her husband, we usually spend £30 every 2 or 3 weeks. We didn't begrudge the expense but it was a bit of a hit.
Then there was the funeral, MIL thought she'd paid for everything up front but we were still hit with a bill of £1000. This was split 3 ways and paid by us and 2 of the BIL's, MIL had 4 sons but one refused to contribute.
Next the are the ongoing problems with MIL's will, all very stressful and a likely bill of £15,000/£20,000. This is also being split 3 ways, we were going to take out a loan to pay this, but it is looking like we will now be able to pay it bit as a time as and when we can.
This is not so we can benefit from the will, it is to protect FIL from the BIL who is being a PITA.

We are now having problems as DD2 seems to be suffering from mental health problems. Over the last few weeks I've had to buy new uniform for DGS. Despite me spending £200 in September to kit him out in the first place, he was wearing the same dirty clothes for 2 or 3 weeks on end.
He also wasn't arriving at school on time, he wasn't getting in until between 10:30 & 12:30. This isn't acceptable so I have been roped in to collecting him every morning and getting him to school on time.
I get to DD's house every morning with a clean set of uniform for DGS, collect anything dirty and bring it home with me to wash.
This has doubled my weekly petrol bill and I've spent another £60 on uniform, I'm more than happy to help but the money has to come from somewhere.
Then just to add insult to injury, I was at work today waiting for DGS to give his PE kit when one of DD's friends who work at the same place as me said.
'I do think your DD is wonderful, I keep telling her she's Wonder Woman, I really think you should do more to help her'
AAARRRGGH, I've already brought up my family, I am nearly 65, still working full time, and helping DD when I can. Hubby and I pay for DGS to have drum lessons and ensure he gets there, we also pay for dance lessons for DGD5 buy her leotard etc. and get her to her lessons, we have one of the DGC to stay every Friday night and every Saturday I look after DGD18months so SIL can coach DGS's football team.How I didn't punch this woman on the nose, I don't know!!!!
And breathe, I sneak out quietly now I got all that off my chest.
Hester

Hester, I am so sorry, I hadn't realised things were so bad. I am sorry I joked on the Daily Thread about you meeting yourself coming back.

Has your DD seen her GP, is there any medication she should be taking?

As Nursemaggie says we would all help if we could, I know we consider ourselves friends here, but it would help if we all lived in close proximity.

I know you are made of stern stuff but please take care of yourself as well as everyone else.

Much love

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