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UPDATE: Ex Boyfriend "Relationship Debt"
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Apologies, I admit I didn't read the other thread and assumed there was a joint liability for rent and bills. It seems I got who left the house the round the wrong way. It would strenghten the case for the op to sue the ex.MoneyMagic01273 wrote: »In the original thread it explains that he apparently left her in a flat - where he was in fact actually liable to pay a share of the rent!
The fact still remains that the best place to sort this is in court, where both parties can bring their evdence. It brings closure along with it, the op clearly has the best case so should stop paying and let it play out.0 -
The fact still remains that the best place to sort this is in court, where both parties can bring their evdence. It brings closure along with it, the op clearly has the best case so should stop paying and let it play out.
Completely agree. Think the OP just needs to find the emotional strength to do this.0 -
yes send him a claim form from the county court.0
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Go and see a solicitor they will give you half an hour free.
Unless the agreement was drawn up by a solicitor it's not worth the paper it wrote on (been there myself)
Tell him you want a detailed list of what you owe him.
I have been in the same place as you a while a go and yes it is very worring but he don't have a leg to stand on... Good luck be brave and stand up to him...0 -
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Although - it's hard to take someone seriously who, in a "official warning email", doesn't know the grammatical difference between past and passed
#PettyGiggleToBrightenMood
and (have another petty giggle) this "debt" occurs interest does it...not incurs?
he is a t$%t
no wonder he hadn't been in a relationship before - avaricious swine. (At least I think it said that in the other thread)Don't put it DOWN; put it AWAY"I would like more sisters, that the taking out of one, might not leave such stillness" Emily Dickinson
Janice 1964-2016
Thank you Honey Bear0 -
MoneyMagic01273 wrote: »And thats why I firmly believe any judge looking at this would laugh at the sheer front of this guy. I mean come on, hounding someone to sign away all his financial obligations and in the same breath force her to agree to pay him for a bunch of fabricated, unsubstanciated "debts" he alleges she owes him?
Just to confirm they do have a sense of humour. I still treasure the moment I watched my ex, in our settlement meeting with the judge, me, my solicitor and his solicitor, say to the judge that he accepted that he had to pay maintainance for the kids - but he felt he was entitled to retain some of it in order that he had money to feed/entertain the kids on a Saturday, when he had them. I knew he was wrong and was just waiting for him to make a fool of himself!:rotfl:<Judge!
As has been said, ring round a few solicitors; you should get an initial free half-hour consultation... Solicitor COULD 'merely' write a letter - that might be enough to stop all this nonsense. Would be worth a few quid to get him off your back! (Solicitor WOULD probably charge for letter).Don't put it DOWN; put it AWAY"I would like more sisters, that the taking out of one, might not leave such stillness" Emily DickinsonJanice 1964-2016
Thank you Honey Bear0 -
a few tears would help as well.
You help nobody with this comment. She is already in the right and has no need to start playing games or decieving people. If after that meeting I was her HR manager and saw she did cry very probably genuinely, it might get to my attention this thread and if I then see that she had been advised to fake tears in order to influence me I would be furious and it would massively back fire on her. Think about what you are saying.societys_child wrote: »I don't live far from you, let me know when you're going . . . I'd like a pop at him too.
I hope for your sake that the police are never involved in this. I dont know where to begin on quite how stupid that comment was.
The OP is in the right, patently obviously so, she needs to play it straight, and a lot of the advice and comments being banded about are only going to add strength to any "other side of the story" the BF might have. He has no case or any sympathy at the moment, dont gift him some on a plate.0 -
My ex-husband and I incurred 'relationship debt' and I lost a fortune because it was all in my name so it was my problem. I can't see he has a claim on anything so I fully endorse what others have said but obviously need you proper advice to be sure.
I work in HR and I was just thinking what I would do if an employee approached me about this situation. There isn't a great deal I can actually do but when your personal life spills into work in such an ugly way I think it is a good idea to get your employer on side. To tell the truth. If he comes to the office then you don't want him admitted and he would need to ejected from the building. As others have said, IT might be able to reject the email so you don't get contact. I'm not sure the colleague is really much of a problem, you might decide you wish to speak to him but then I'm sure you justified yourself satisfactorily when you asked him to sign the 'agreement' in the first place. HR may be able to faciliate a conversation between the other colleague(s) who are being contacted by your ex about how to reject such contact about you. This is turning into stalker like behaviour so hopefully your company can be supportive - they don't want your work suffering.0 -
I hope for your sake that the police are never involved in this. I dont know where to begin on quite how stupid that comment was.
Oh FGS, have you had sense of humor removal therapy?
FYI, I was responding to post 6 which you seem to have totally missed, which summed up most peoples feelings.
I'm not sure what "having a pop" means in your world, to me it's having a rant at someone / telling them exactly what you think of them. Not sure why the police would be interested . So who's the stupid one here?0
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