Child maintenance how much ?

stapeley · 3 July 2009 at 12:14PM

hi , I know it should be based on what you can afford , but I live with a partner who is on reasonable money . I only work part time on a low income . What do people pay for a teenager to the ex?

xx_Jo_xx · 3 July 2009 at 12:26PM

Hi there stapeley, Im probably the wrong person to ask, but I dont believe it should be based on how much you can afford.

I have a little boy who is 7 and in his whole existance, his Dad has give me £70. Thats it.

Everytime the CSA catches up with him, he signs on the dole and works on the side and then takes out a crisis loan from the DSS, so that there is nothing left for the CSA to take. (they will deduct payments towards his crisis loan first before anything else and therefore determine he doesnt have enough left to deduct anything further.)

7 years down the line, he is remarried to someone else who has one daughter from her previous relationship and they now have a baby girl together. Yet our government determines that they should come before my child as far as his income is concerned? How is that Just???

He chose to have my child first, he chose to leave and start another family - that was up to him. But he should only be allowed to do that if he can afford to.

He had a family and if he can afford to have another one - then fine, so be it. But my child is entitled to NOTHING because someone deemed that he just wasnt that important cos my ex decided to have a new family.

What should your partner pay for his teenager who lives with his ex??

He should pay however much it would cost for them to live with you. He should pay what he paid when he lived there (ie half of everything).

Thats my opinion.

stapeley · 3 July 2009 at 12:42PM

Sorry but do not really want a case histroy from everyone . Stressed out enough as it is .What is reasonable when on a low wage ?

RVK2 · 3 July 2009 at 12:55PM

I receive £174 per month for one child.

xx_Jo_xx · 3 July 2009 at 1:06PM

Sorry - Im not meaning to give you a case history - but in short, regardless of your low income, you need to pay what is necessary for that childs needs.

If your income doesnt satisfy that amount - you need to do something about upping your income.

HTH

tallyhoh · 3 July 2009 at 1:16PM

I had £400 a calendar month for my teenager for upkeep plus luxuries like days out, football matches etc.

carlsberggal · 3 July 2009 at 1:20PM

We pay £200 a month for DH's daughter and send money into her account for special outings, trips etc as and when needed. We don't earn big amounts but need to 'do our share' for want of a better word

Penelope_Penguin · 3 July 2009 at 1:26PM

stapeley wrote: »

What is reasonable when on a low wage ?

How many children do you care for, and how many are you going to pay maintenance for. I'll do you a calculation, then.

Jo has a point, btw

jinky67 · 3 July 2009 at 1:27PM

bloody hell you lot are lucky

DS's dad gives me £118 a month, and I fund most of his clothes, school dinners, holidays etc from that
DD's dad gives me £20 a week

jenjade · 3 July 2009 at 2:11PM

I have a 7 year old and only get £27 a week (£108 a month) He has another child and is on a low wage so that it why i get very little. Annoyingly his other child is 19 years old! Also I am on a low income so we have very little to live on and he lives very comfortable on his money!

methekidsandthecat · 3 July 2009 at 2:21PM

Hi

I recieve £170 per month for 2 teenagers - ex reduced the responsibilities in his work role so then his income dropped and therefore my money drops. I have to say that I agree with Jo - He can still afford to go out and buy new clothes - with 2 teenagers even working full time I cannot do this. The expenses that the teenagers generate do not stop or even reduce because his income reduces - when I cannot manage I have to take a second job - why cannot he do the same?

He did not even contribute to DD's recent prom so I managed by cutting back on the food budget not ideal I know!

I do not think that this is a suitable amount to contribute as they cost far more than this each month.

Me

Child maintenance how much ?

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