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HOw do I manage all the presents my 6 year old will be getting for birthday
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We are to invite possibly 30-40 children to my son's birthday party when he turns 6. Will be children from school, preschool nursery and his after school club. That means a potential 30 presents. I would like my son to get presents as he love opening them but I don't want 30 different toys. If someone wants to buy my son a present I would like him to have something if it went towards a large present.
I was thinking of may be getting vouchers from ELC or a local toy shop and then my son could get one large present.
How can I do this without offending other parents. Would I say "Vouchers are preferred with but you can bring a long a present?"
What about producing a birthday list .. Like what they do with wedding list? Are they any toy shops online that allow you to have a birthday list? What about book tokens?
Any ideas?
I was thinking of may be getting vouchers from ELC or a local toy shop and then my son could get one large present.
How can I do this without offending other parents. Would I say "Vouchers are preferred with but you can bring a long a present?"
What about producing a birthday list .. Like what they do with wedding list? Are they any toy shops online that allow you to have a birthday list? What about book tokens?
Any ideas?
“…the ‘insatiability doctrine – we spend money we don’t have, on things we don’t need, to make impressions that don’t last, on people we don’t care about.” Professor Tim Jackson
“The best things in life is not things"
“The best things in life is not things"
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I think birthday lists for a 6-year-old might raise some eyebrows.
You could have a book-themed party where all the decorations, games etc are centred around characters from books - most people would pick up on that and bring books/book tokens as gifts.
Other than that, by specifying ELC vouchers or similar you risk offending people who might have a pre-bought stash of gifts for parties and who maybe can't afford to buy another gift. If it's bothering you that he'll get so much stuff, pull out a few of the presents for him to have now and rewrap the rest for Christmas. MSE, he'll never notice and you'll not offend anyone.Organised Birthdays and Christmas: Spend So Far: £193.75; Saved from RRP £963.76
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This is just you having a laugh, right?
Herman - MP for all!
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I think that would be considered rude.
If anyone asks you what he would like, fair enough, but you can't really tell people what to give.
Leave big presents to family, party presents are usually just a little something anyway.0 -
I would think it was extremely cheeky if you made a list or 'specified' what gifts YOU want for your son.
I pick up nice and cheap presents all year round and do have a stash for parties, and would definately not buy vouchers, can you imagine how much that would cost a year, lets say that your son was invited back to the 30 friends partys?!!!!
You must be having a laugh, surely you want all your friends sons to come and have a good time, not just come with a gift?0 -
Well, if you do specify vouchers, at least the list of people coming would reduce rapidly.
Just accept the gifts and if he doesn't like them, they can be recycled and given to other boys at their parties [don't give the same present back of course].0 -
There's a simple solution - don't invite between 30 and 40 children to a 6 year old's party. Cut the invites back to half a dozen and then he'll 'only' have 6 different presents for you to 'worry' about.
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We are to invite possibly 30-40 children to my son's birthday party when he turns 6. Will be children from school, preschool nursery and his after school club. That means a potential 30 presents. I would like my son to get presents as he love opening them but I don't want 30 different toys. If someone wants to buy my son a present I would like him to have something if it went towards a large present.
I was thinking of may be getting vouchers from ELC or a local toy shop and then my son could get one large present.
How can I do this without offending other parents. Would I say "Vouchers are preferred with but you can bring a long a present?"
What about producing a birthday list .. Like what they do with wedding list? Are they any toy shops online that allow you to have a birthday list? What about book tokens?
Any ideas?
Please tell me you aren't being serious!
Its a six years olds birthday party and most, if not all, will bring a gift. Its part of the fun for both the child attending and the child receiving. DS loves to choose a present to take although I do keep a few spares in the loft for late party invites.
If I had a childs birthday invite asking for vouchers or a birthday list I would probably arrange for my DS to be doing something else that day. Its so rude and money grabbing to specify what you want people to bring.
If you dont want 30 presents then either invite just a handful of people or donate all the gifts to the local womens refuge or childrens home.0 -
Well, if you do specify vouchers, at least the list of people coming would reduce rapidly.
Just accept the gifts and if he doesn't like them, they can be recycled and given to other boys at their parties [don't give the same present back of course].
Thanks for your feedback everyone. I personally would not be offended by someone stating what they child would like for birthday. One mother once said "anything that had Bob the Builder." I can see from the feedback that many would be offended.
I am not joking about this. Remember @ MSE any question is allowed. This is a real dilemma. I & several other mum's have people/family/friends buying all sorts of stuff for our children when all the time our child would really like/need something else. Some parent don't want to offend but have a house stuffed with toys they don't want when they would prefer clothes or a one large toy that everyone put a little towards. ....
I will therefore follow your advice and just keep the all present and recycle them back as present thought the year to other childen's birthday presents. The money saved from doing this I can spend on getting a present that he would really like for Birthday/Christmas.“…the ‘insatiability doctrine – we spend money we don’t have, on things we don’t need, to make impressions that don’t last, on people we don’t care about.” Professor Tim Jackson
“The best things in life is not things"0 -
I also have a six year old and wouldnt dream of telling the parents what we wanted for our son. Even when they ask 'what he's into' I explain that it would be lovely to have their child there with us but we dont expect a present! You may find that not all of them do bring one either.... I think your being very expectant!
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