Frump to Fab 2017 - A Whole New World

I forgot to say sugarbaby, what a disappointing thing to happen on your return to work - please do follow it up with an email so you always have something in writing if needs be. If you don't have any overtime authorised then you can only do what you can do, and there was no need for your general manager to be hostile when you're only reporting what you found. Not exactly constructive comments from them!

Rubyslippers your boys will be fine, their dad might not be but it's part of the learning experience of being a parent Enjoy your night out without guilt xx

I posted a great long post and it disappeared. Here is the short version. Rubyslippers does your Oh help every night with the bath feed bed process with the children. They need training. Most men think we stay home and play with the toys and kids all day it is up to us to educate them:D
I had a great few nights in a very posh hotel ( a Christmas gift) and I waited till their sale and got dinner bed and breakfast for the same price. Will go back when I win the lottery.

maman wrote: »

Great weightloss indie. You must be delighted.:T Please come back and tell us about 'Be the most fabulous you'. I like the sound of that.

Yes, really pleased to see the weight starting to come off. Won't be long before I am back down to where I was last May after my last trip to the Juice detox retreat, and without having to go away and do something extreme like juicing. Although this is fairly extreme - I am dreaming of apples as limited to low sugar fruit which means berries. But still means I can eat real meals and have something to chew.

The talk was based on some basic NLP principles (Neuro Linguistic Programming) which I did a course in some years ago and also Positive Psychology which I have read quite a bit about. I was feeling a bit cross with myself that I'd studied it and not used it... and then stopped and reminded myself of how much I had changed since I first heard of NLP. I was then living in Hampshire with a boss that was a bit of a bully, working too hard, few friends who lived near me (mine were mainly 70 miles away around Swindon), virtually no social life, hair dyed blonde in a vain attempt to recapture my youth, wearing clothes that didn't suit my figure or colouring and had just got out of a relationship with a guy who hadn't treated me well and yet I still hadn't managed to dump him. Oh and I wasn't hiking which is one of my favourite ways to spend my time and hadn't been on holiday much either.

Now I live in London, have a very active social life, loads of friends. travel a lot, go hiking regularly, have a job where I really like my managers and feel appreciated, I work less - 4 days a week, have a much better sense of what to wear and a great hairdresser. Ok, so I have yet to get the weight sorted and I'd love to have a nice boyfriend, and I want to get my spending better under control so I can start overpaying my mortgage, but I've come a long way already and am much happier.

Has encouraged me to dust off my NLP textbooks and consider what tips are in there for the next goals. Also got a couple more talks booked with different presenters - "The neuroscience of powerful habits" is the first, then the next is "The psychology of weight loss". I've also booked a day long workshop "How to get your dream guy" ( http://uk.funzing.com/funz/5462 ). Who knows if it will work, but I got a discount on it so it's not cost much and it's worth a shot. What I've done up till now ultimately hasn't worked so I might as well try something different.

Rubyslippers77 wrote: »

I'm supposed to be going out on Friday night for my first night out since the boys were born, yet OH has already managed to make me feel rubbish about it he's stormed off to the pub in a huff this evening as DS2 was very clingy towards me and wouldn't go to him. I've tried explaining that it's a phase and most children go through it at some stage but in his opinion DS2 should be left to howl and sob till he accepts his daddy instead of mummy….. indie, I wouldn't mind as much if OH was just inept but it's his lack of trying/ patience that gets to me, I know he'll be happy to snore off to sleep once the boys are finally in bed even though he's fully aware that he never hears them if they cry. I am already full of mummy guilt; logically I know that I should go out and that one evening without me won't hurt, but on the other hand the thought of my little boy sobbing for his mummy breaks my heart

Well, I can't speak as a mother myself (always knew I didn't want to be one). However, I do remember my mum telling me that there were times when she had sent me or my sister off on the school bus (to primary school) in the morning in tears not wanting to leave her and she was really worried about us all day. Yet when she collected us in the evening we were cheerful and had clearly got over whatever upset us quickly enough and enjoyed seeing our friends at school.

maman wrote: »

One thing I've noticed about my new dance group is that many women (the more fab looking ones IMO) wear dresses rather than skirts. So I'm going to plan to wear a few dresses for the next few weeks. This venue is also considerably warmer than the usual one so I'm finding jumpers too hot after a few dances.

My facial yesterday was amazing. I had a deep cleansing one with steam as I'm unhappy about blocked pores in the T zone. What I like about this salon is that they give you a full hour's attention. When the mask was on she did an arm and hand massage ( or option of foot massage) rather than disappear for 10 minutes or more. Most of all it was so relaxing I loved it. I'll go again in a month or so but meantime I'm going to do a regular exfoliating scrub after my shower to try and help things along.

I am thinking about taking a fun dress to work to change into on ceroc nights - I have some nice summer dresses from Emily and Fin that would work. It's far too energetic to want to wear a jumper, though I see the odd guy wearing them. Not generally the best dancers though, they are usually in t shirts, would overheat otherwise.

Really enjoyed my class this week, starting to feel like I am dancing rather than just practicing the steps. I feel for the beginner guys though - it's easier being a woman and being led, I get to try all sorts of things we've not learned in class because a good guy can lead you through things you don't know. As a beginner man you are stuck with having to do what you've learned and feeling awkward about asking more experienced women to dance and getting stuck for moves during the dance.

If you can find a salon that does Guinot Hydradermie facials they are really good - deep cleansing as well as hydrating. I was rather congested this month as had been neglecting my skincare routine a bit whilst focusing on doing more cooking so have to make more of an effort with the exfoliation to keep that under control.

I am off for a cycling lesson shortly then away hiking for the weekend. Going to be cold but on the positive front it doesn't look as if it is going to be wet. Some of my friends from other trips are going to be there, so that will be fun. Just got to watch the diet - the packed lunches supplied aren't great on the health front, so am going to take some of my own food to have instead and be careful about what meals I pick for breakfast and dinner.

Have a fab weekend all x