Best man speech by a couple

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Adrian6017
Adrian6017 Posts: 3 Newbie
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Hi
My wife and I have been asked to be the 'best man' at my best friends wedding. I've search the internet for example of this but haven't been able to find anything.
A couple must have been asked to give the best mans speech before!
Has anyone got any experience of how to make this work best or can point us to any videos or tips?
TIA
Adrian and Elena

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  • maman
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    I haven't heard of that but why not? I think 2 best men is a little more usual so searching for that might help.

    Also, it's not just the speech but the other duties. Good luck :)
  • onwards&upwards
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    I’ve been to plenty f weddings where two people make a speech together. Mostly they split the lines, one they did it as a quiz type thing, that fell a bit flat though.
  • suejb2
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    As above. I have been to lots of weddings where there were two best men. They ‘performed ‘ their speech like a double act. Either share one speech or have your own separate ones.
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  • maman
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    suejb2 wrote: »
    As above. I have been to lots of weddings where there were two best men. They ‘performed ‘ their speech like a double act. Either share one speech or have your own separate ones.

    It's likely that OP will know stories about his friend from way back whereas his wife will have more recent information. They could split things that way.
  • Grenage
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    Adrian6017 wrote: »
    Hi
    My wife and I have been asked to be the 'best man' at my best friends wedding. I've search the internet for example of this but haven't been able to find anything.
    A couple must have been asked to give the best mans speech before!
    Has anyone got any experience of how to make this work best or can point us to any videos or tips?
    TIA
    Adrian and Elena


    My advice would be to write your speech before you start looking up examples on the internet. It's very easy to end up with a formulaic speech that everyone has heard before.
  • GreenQueen
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    What about a "chatshow" formula, with your wife asking questions about your earlier life as a best friend e.g."what was Fred like when you were at Primary school together?" cue hilarious and embarrassing story!
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  • DD265
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    My husband had three best men (he couldn't decide). One wrote - and gave - the speech, and the other two contributed a paragraph each.
  • OldMusicGuy
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    Just been to a wedding where everybody gave a speech. Father of the bride, father of the groom, groom, bride, the three best men and the two bridesmaids and bridesman (yes really). Seems like anything goes these days...

    The best men and bridesmaids/bridesman speech were done by them all taking turns. It was a bit overlong because everyone felt they ought to tell some funny anecdotes. So my advice is to write a single speech of normal length and then work out a way that both of you can give it rather than each of you write something and try to "add it together".
  • onwards&upwards
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    OldMusicGuy wrote: »
    Just been to a wedding where everybody gave a speech. Father of the bride, father of the groom, groom, bride, the three best men and the two bridesmaids and bridesman (yes really). Seems like anything goes these days...

    The best men and bridesmaids/bridesman speech were done by them all taking turns. It was a bit overlong because everyone felt they ought to tell some funny anecdotes. So my advice is to write a single speech of normal length and then work out a way that both of you can give it rather than each of you write something and try to "add it together".


    Yes, always leave them wanting more is a good rule of thumb!

    I think it’s nice that the women involved are speaking more these days, but short and sweet is still the way to go!
  • shiny76
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    You could always try telling the usual sort of 'growing up together' speech where one phrases things for a 'polite' audience. Then the other re-phrases to tell it how it is.

    A bit like the "what these phrases really mean" web pages: https://www.news.com.au/technology/online/social/email-etiquette-exposed-what-those-phrases-really-mean/news-story/d97fb274e3ea22acafafce07e0137fd6

    e.g.
    "Mark is always the life and soul of the party. He's always the last off the dance floor"

    "Mark is a complete lightweight, gets drunk on half a shandy. He's normally last off the dance floor as he's usually passed out in the corner"
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