Goodbye..........

Burlesque_Babe

.....from me.

I've decided the time has come to walk away from MSE.

The support over the last 3 years has been fantastic and I've turned my life around.

However, I now feel I have nothing to contribute and that there are many others who are much more experienced than me or are saying the same as I would so I just feel sometimes like a parrot repeating information.

I feel that I'm increasingly seeing MSE as my 'reality'. I spend hours on it every day, basically looking at words on a screen whilst the real world out there passes me by and it's not healthy (for me).

I need to look to putting my life back 'out there' in the real world - locally - where I live, not relying on the comfort from words on a computer.

My decision is for a mixture of reasons, a couple of them are MSE comment related (1 in fact from a troll, believe it or not) and some are from stuff going on over the last few days, a teetering relationship, a funeral and a few 'revelations' shall we say about my past. Life's too short to be sitting here pressing F5 or 'subscribed threads' constantly. Emotionally, I'm rock bottom and I need to prise myself out of my 'ruts' and look to try to change things and MSE is one of my 'ruts'.

To you all, I hope you reach the goals you desire and find happiness in your lives in whatever way you want it.

For those in debt - it gets easier - believe me, keep plugging away even when times are desparate, nights are long and life seems like it will never get better. I've had 2 credit card companies today virtually beg me not to close accounts when I called them and chucking whatever I wanted deal wise to keep me as a customer - a different story from when I was trying to lower the APR from 29% or so when I was in debt and they basically told me where to go.

Bunny - you're a wonderfully sexy woman, I admire your strength of character

Snaggles - you'll raise a wonderful son in Ryan, be proud of him.

Sarah (I_A) - I've noticed you're making more time for yourself recently - good for you, keep doing it.

Len - Do what makes you happy, mate.

Toto - good luck with the baby you drumming, fabulous woman

Jacs - hope it all works out

Tigtag - keep the frying pan nearby for MB

Jinky - keep being mad!


And to everyone I haven't mentioned. Maz, GingerSte, Louse, Lucy etc - I apologise, there's so many great people around. I guess a special thankyou to Martin for setting up MSE in the first place - if only it had been around 10 years ago.

I won't be coming back after today, I need to completely break away.

Take care all and do what makes you happy.

All my love
Keren xxxxxx

hypno06

Keren, you are a fab person, and a breath of fresh air. It will be sad if you go but I appreciate your reasons.

I hope that you don't walk away for ever - please pop in and say hi, if nothing else.

((hugs)) xxx

smashedbooboo

Take care Keren, you will be missed hun, please pop back in from time to time to say hi. Good luck with everything x x x x x x x x

yellowmonkey

All the best and good luck

I know exactly where you are coming from with regards to the F5 and refresh all day

ym

tigzem

Oh Keren.... I feel very sad you're leaving, you're such an inspiration and I love reading your posts, but I understand where you're coming from. I have to say I'm not as addicted to MSE as I have been, but it's all too easy to spend hours on here.

I wish you well for the future and I hope you can find yourself.... hope to keep in touch via FB?

Love Tigz xxxxx

Soubrette

keren29 wrote: »

However, I now feel I have nothing to contribute and that there are many others who are much more experienced than me or are saying the same as I would so I just feel sometimes like a parrot repeating information.

Whilst I understand and sympathise with the rest of your post, I have to disagree with this part

I always feel that you give a good balance between sympathy and reality.

I'll miss your posts.

Good luck though.

Sou

penguin83

Keren - take care of yourself - pop back every now and then to say hello!

Hope life takes you were you want to go

Loadsa love x x x

Bunnyinthelights

Keren,
I can understand where you are coming from-but PLEASE don't go completely.
You are my rock, my stalwart.
(also, my wonderful beautiful friend)

xxxxxxx

ZTD

keren29 wrote: »

.....from me.

I've decided the time has come to walk away from MSE.

The support over the last 3 years has been fantastic and I've turned my life around.

However, I now feel I have nothing to contribute and that there are many others who are much more experienced than me or are saying the same as I would so I just feel sometimes like a parrot repeating information.

Not at all. Every person is different, and yes, you can say "Get rid of Sky TV" like everyone else - but helping people overcome their past, and their spending to make themselves happy that requires variety in the "old hands".

Everybody - and I'm talking about you too - make a unique contribution to that.

keren29 wrote: »

I feel that I'm increasingly seeing MSE as my 'reality'. I spend hours on it every day, basically looking at words on a screen whilst the real world out there passes me by and it's not healthy (for me).

I need to look to putting my life back 'out there' in the real world - locally - where I live, not relying on the comfort from words on a computer.

The words don't come from a computer - they come from people. The words are no more or less real than words you hear from your telephone, or written in a letter.

keren29 wrote: »

My decision is for a mixture of reasons, a couple of them are MSE comment related (1 in fact from a troll, believe it or not)

Try not to listen to Trolls - they prey on the worst parts of you.

keren29 wrote: »

and some are from stuff going on over the last few days, a teetering relationship,

Teetering on what? Dumping him and finding some happiness for yourself? Good - the south coast is heaving with men who can make you the centre of their life.

keren29 wrote: »

a funeral and a few 'revelations' shall we say about my past.

:grouphug:

keren29 wrote: »

Life's too short to be sitting here pressing F5 or 'subscribed threads' constantly. Emotionally, I'm rock bottom and I need to prise myself out of my 'ruts' and look to try to change things and MSE is one of my 'ruts'.

Take care of yourself, as you have taken care of others.

keren29 wrote: »

I won't be coming back after today, I need to completely break away.

Take care all and do what makes you happy.

All my love
Keren xxxxxx

Take care, and don't lose touch with the friends you've made.

System

Hi Keren

I know what you mean, maybe some time-out is what you need, some time to draw the line between what your life needs and what you need to do meet those needs and the time you spend on here not in the real world. Then when that becomes clear maybe you will be more comfortable with everything. Whatever you do you know where we all are and how you can reach us. Spread your word. As someone told me recently:

Don't be afraid. You needn't slay the beast nor scale the entire mountain. That's not how it's done. You only need to move through today. Think of the distance you've already covered. Focus on your strengths. Let each new step remind you of your freedom. Let every breath you take remind you of your power. Seek out friends and guides; they're anxious to help. You're not alone. You're understood. This road has been walked before. Dance life's dance, just a few steps at a time, and in the wink of an eye you will wonder to yourself, "What beast, what mountain? Was I having a dream?" Love yourself; we are already so very proud of you.

Love Lenny x

Toto

Take care honey, you know where I am if you need me

I feel the same way, I know I'm useless at offering advice. The trouble is, the longer I am debt free the less I feel I have to give. I feel as if I just pop in to say hello to friends and keep up (ish) with their day to day lives.

Do come back and let us know how things are with you won't you.