Money Trouble involving bf's Ex

dieselthebusdriver

Ok I have been with my partner now for nearly a year, we've moved in together.. Things are going lovely etc etc...

He has 2 kids by his ex partner and naturally, he pays her child support. However, this is not always good enough for her...

He discovered after he left that she had stolen nearly £7000 from a savings account he had with her for their children. He could not prove it because she put the money into a joint account with an unrelated friend and due to data protection etc my partner could not access it to prove she had half-inched it! - This is to give you an idea of the sort of woman she is. Never done a lick of work in her life, claims that her silly 14hrs a week is a "tiring job" and has pretty much everything paid for her by the state or my partner.

Anyway.. On to my question!.... My partner currently pays the Ex £150 per month in a direct debit to her account. (She didn't want anymore cos it will "muck with her benefits"). He did this because the CSA had wrongly calculated his earnings and were asking for £150 per week!! (He only gets about £250 a week... How are we supposed to pay rent and eat???).... Anyway, they made a civil agreement that he pays £150 into her account and subsequently told the CSA they were no logner needed...

My partner and I want to have a savings account together but at the moment he says he wants to wait until the CSA is properly abolished, not just the Goverment saying we are going to abolish it bla bla bla. His reasons are that should the Ex find out about this then she is likely to suddenly decide to involve the CSA again and becuase his name will be on the account then OUR money will be taken into consideration and basically she could end up getting my money. We also want a joint bank account but he says we can't yet for the same reasons because the account wil have his name on it then the CSA will count ALL money in it towards his earnings and subsequently charge him more for maintenance regardless of who or where the money is coming from.

Is this right? Surely the CSA can't charge him more just because he has a joint account with someone who is in no way responsible for the maintenace of these children and is contributing to the account? And same with the savings? So just because *I* put money into it as well it will be counted towards his assets and she will be able to demand more??

This is really ticking me off cos she makes our lives Hell most of the time anyway with "No you cant see the kids" "yes you can" "They can only come over if your gf goes away whilst they are there"... "Oh alrighgt whatever they can come over.." and of course I have to pick up the pieces of his broken heart when he can't speak to/see his kids! Surely she can't do this?