Does the OR deliberately hit your birthdays / anniversaries ?

Dez-Titute

Everybody ignores/forgets my birthday,can't remember the last time I got a card.Probably my fault as always considered cards a wasteof money and let everybody know.

blind-as-a-bat_2

Dez-Titute wrote: »

Everybody ignores/forgets my birthday,can't remember the last time I got a card.Probably my fault as always considered cards a wasteof money and let everybody know.

Hmmm that may be where i went wrong too:o

wherediditallgo

Dez-Titute wrote: »

Everybody ignores/forgets my birthday,can't remember the last time I got a card.Probably my fault as always considered cards a wasteof money and let everybody know.

Could be. My Mum loves any kind of celebration, but my Dad would never join in. She'd do all the stuff like putting up a stocking for Father Christmas, but my Dad had to be forced to open his present, & would sometimes not open a birthday card for days. Once we'd left home, we gradually forgot to give/send him anything, because he could barely bring himself to say thanks never mind actually show any appreciation, & me being me I told him I wasn't going to keep sending cards etc to someone who couldn't even be bothered to say thank you for them. He basically let me know he wasn't bothered whether I did or not. :mad:

He's now in his eighties & has apparently moaned over the last few years about how Mum's always remembered on Mother's Day, her birthday etc, yet he gets forgotten. This year, he gave my Mum her first ever Valentine's card, after over 50 years of marriage - she told me that she ran around like Maria in "The Sound Of Music" shouting with delight, & when she went to hug him he held up a chair to stop her smothering him. When I sent him some money this Easter, he actually said thanks, which shocked me. It wasn't too late for him to change, so maybe you can do the same. Start sending cards - make your own, as it's a lot cheaper & far more personal. You might not get much response the first year, as people will be used to you not bothering before, but if you keep on doing it, people will reciprocate.

dalip

It was my birthday a few wks back. My one daughter who works abroad never sent me card but thats nothing new,when i asked where my flowers were:D she said "oh i forgot"out of sight out of mind:rolleyes: . My other daughter who i fell out with the wk before my birthday,i know my muzzle was off:p ,never sent a card either,my sisters was 2 days late as she forgot the bank holiday and my dad sent one which said happy birthday son:rotfl: .
Its the estranged daughters bithday this wk and am tempted not to bother but then 2 wrongs don't make a right:o

Anyway welcome LAD you have found us now:rotfl: better late than never;) . I was late findng this site but it's very addictive.D

wherediditallgo

dalip wrote: »

My other daughter who i fell out with the wk before my birthday,i know my muzzle was off:p ,never sent a card either..... Its the estranged daughters bithday this wk and am tempted not to bother but then 2 wrongs don't make a right:o

Definitely send her a card, even if it goes against the grain. Children have the ability to see your wrongs from a mile off, but not their own when they're staring them in the face. If you don't send the card, it could be ages before you speak again, which won't be good for either of you. Don't do what my friend did, though - she always has to have the last word with her daughter, & when they had yet another row & didn't speak for months, she sent her a Christmas card with the message "I'm sending this because you were my daughter before you became a b*tch". :eek: They're still not talking now.

LAD, strange as it might seem to say it, I hope you're just paranoid.

dalip

Yes i know WDIAG you are right and i think deep down i know that. They have the abilty to hurt by saying and doing simple things!. Me i hate upsetting/hurting anybody but as said so many times i put my mouth into gear before my brain:o . Not on this occassion i might add:p


I would not call someone who does that to their daugter a friend,imagine what she would do to you if you fell out. :eek:

scaredwitless32

"I'm sending this because you were my daughter before you became a b*tch". :eek: They're still not talking now.

That made me laugh, even tho it is a shocking thing to say lol

I was 40 last friday and I got 10 cards :j, they have been dwindling over the years.

betterlatethannever

Oh SW, you should have said. A very happy (belated) birthday. :bdaycake: :beer:

scaredwitless32

Thanks BLTN, I just didnt want to admit to myself that I was actually 40, let alone anyone else :eek:, but now its happened, I'm kinda getting use to it :rolleyes:, although I still feel like a 17- 18yr old........mentally that is, shamefully, not pyshically :rotfl: