The Compers Inn - Part 3

mollythewestie

Congratulations Velvetglove on post of the month - and very well deserved it is too!!

:beer: :beer:

(Sorry to hear of your troubles Bella *hugs* to you)

bella165

yep lazy aint the word he sits outside on the stairs allday listening to talk sport,
and when he does go to work its only a couple of hours as hes self emplyed,
ITS DOING MY HEAD IN

Stargirl29

Is there anyway you can go away for a few days and leave him to do everything? He may be more appreciative if he realises how much you really do! Maybe stay with a friend?

Is he good with the kids?

Splodz

Stargirl29 might have an idea there Bella... maybe just a couple of nights with a friend would do the trick? Hope you get things sorted though.

stargirl90

I agree too, maybe even just a night away would scare him into putting a bit more effort in... you deserve more, especially considering all you've been through recently *hugs* xxx

bella165

cor he cant do owt and if i did go id have to take the kids as he wouldnt get up with them when dd was born he wouldnt change her or feed her,
and he dont cook dont know how to use the washer,give him a duster and he just looks at i tryed not picking upafter him,and stopping you know what but nope still aint changed mind you i should be useto it in the 6 years ive know him

Rock_Chick_Bird

bella165 wrote: »

cor he cant do owt and if i did go id have to take the kids as he wouldnt get up with them when dd was born he wouldnt change her or feed her,
and he dont cook dont know how to use the washer,give him a duster and he just looks at i tryed not picking upafter him,and stopping you know what but nope still aint changed mind you i should be useto it in the 6 years ive know him

I think you definitely need to break the cycle bella as nothing will ever change if not.
This may be the best time to leave him with the kids for a few days cos they won't be missing school if he doesn't get them up in time.

The fact that he can't do housework is a cop-out on his behalf methinks (ie, If I do it crap enough she'll do it for me!!)

You need the break & he needs a kick up the backside before you start feeling really resentful.

I hope you get it sorted. You can always have a girls night with us in the Compers!!

wokkies

Rock_Chick_Bird wrote: »

I think you definitely need to break the cycle bella as nothing will ever change if not.
This may be the best time to leave him with the kids for a few days cos they won't be missing school if he doesn't get them up in time.

The fact that he can't do housework is a cop-out on his behalf methinks (ie, If I do it crap enough she'll do it for me!!)

You need the break & he needs a kick up the backside before you start feeling really resentful.

I hope you get it sorted. You can always have a girls night with us in the Compers!!

I agree RCB, Bella you need a break, and ginjim have you tried the number 4 on your washing machine? Dont put red socks in with whites though:rolleyes:

bella165

Dont put red socks in with whites though

unless you use colour catcher like i do,
ive just asked oh is i can go bingo tommorrow,but nope he said who will look after the kids???
cheeky #@+@@@
oh well ill just have to wait till kids in bed then go tescos late night shopping to get a break

Splodz

I say put your foot down bella... the answer to his question is "you will". Easy for me to say I know.