feel like such a failure

jojo1969

i need to get weight off for myself health wise and to look better in clothes
the reason i feel such a failure isbecause i have no get up and go to do anything about it.i jnow i need a kick up the backside and im determined to get my willpower going and get some weight off for my hols

Alias_Omega

diets dont work, thats why there is so many of them.

take yourself out, buy yourself an cheap iPod / MP3 player then start running, start with 3 times per week, put a song on your iPod that is about 25-30mins long, then another after that about the same. Can be a dance mix, or just anything. You can use this as your timer, one track running / walking out, the other running / walking back. No point in treadmill work as you can simply press the STOP button and get off.

Try it..

absolutebounder

jojo1969 wrote: »

i need to get weight off for myself health wise and to look better in clothes
the reason i feel such a failure isbecause i have no get up and go to do anything about it.i jnow i need a kick up the backside and im determined to get my willpower going and get some weight off for my hols

Good answer for first question. so focus on being healthy and finding some enjoyable excercise. You could also visualise what you want to look like on the beach.
As for second Q you may have goalpost set too high. Lower it and start exercising slowly but do something you can enjoy.
As has been said most diets dont work. Its not so much the diet as the fact that it focuses your mind on food
The only diet I recommend is the dog diet where you get a largish dog and make the same meals as you do now but give 20% to the dog. Then you need to take dog for walk to stop him getting fat. This way you get less food more exercise and a companion.

Paparika

Jojo you are not alone..

I have tried various faddy diets... even tried the weight watchers, lost one stone in nine months

I decided to buy some new plates with large rims on so that I had less room to put food on, and just cut down a little on what i eat.

There's no point in cutting out all the naughty food as you want it all the more.

I don't do celery or carrot sticks, and in the past 2 months i have lost a stone.

Feel good about yourself and enjoy who you are. Good luck, I bet you'll get to the weight you want to be, but don't feel you need to be less, who wants a size zero anyway.

Magpye

Great responses from everyone here :T I have been down in the dumps myself today and reading this has cheered me up no end.

Jojo, do let us know how you get on - did you get your walk today? I hope you enjoyed it! :j Exercise can be great fun if you don't think of it as a chore or purely as a means to an end!

notanothergreyhair

I lost some weight in the past year, about 2.5 stones. Some of that was cambridge diet (which I did to reach a goal quickly) but prior to that, and after, I told myself the following.

I decided that I was not going to eat to lose weight, rather eat to improve my health. Every time I ate/eat I eat something with a beneficial health property. i.e. I will have a small glass of cranberry juice with breakfast for the kidney function benefits. I do this for most of the time, but then have the odd treat like a bar of dark chocolate.

I found that by having a focus on what health benefits I get from eating different things it made life much easier. The weight loss I get is a side effect of eating these things.

HelenYorkshire

jojo1969 wrote: »

i need to get weight off for myself health wise and to look better in clothes
the reason i feel such a failure isbecause i have no get up and go to do anything about it.i jnow i need a kick up the backside and im determined to get my willpower going and get some weight off for my hols

I'm the same, I have good months and what-the-heck-is-the-point months...
I've started posting on the Oldstyle weightloss board, they're not too scary I promise!:D

Little things count - like how you think about things. I like my food, I've never been "on a diet" and refuse to start now :eek::mad:.
So instead I think of it as how much fruit and veg can I cram in? The more I have of those, the less room for chocolate etc. After a couple of weeks the processed junk doesn't even taste nice, it's just getting to that point. Oh - I bought a vegan cookbook too - who else eats more veg than a vegan?

(Says me who tonight intended to go to 2 gym classes and instead came home and fell asleep on the sofa )

Having someone with you helps so much, my gym partner has gone AWOL and I've been about half as often - even though I tell myself I'm doing it for me, not her.

Try different stuff too - walking, swimming (thank heavens for ladies only classes!), yoga are gentle to start with. "Step and pump" was a bit much for me last week :eek: but at least now I know what to expect if I go again in a few weeks! I'm a complete dunce at ANY sport-like activity so I've learned to laugh at my attempts...but somewhere out there is something I'm good at. I'm pretty good at bendy yoga stuff, for example

Most importantly, if you scoff a sack of biscuits (or is that just me...?:o) don't think that's your week ruined. Just think how glad you'll be of a nice crunchy refreshing salad the next day, instead of heavy, greasy stodge.

Ephemera

Lots of weight loss threads on here...I'm with Murphy's No More Pies club in the Money Saver's Arms.

I've lost a stone and found some lovely, supportive and friendly people there. Have a look round the threads, you are sure to find one that suits you!

All the best,

Eph xx

jojo1969

hi guys,well i have been for a hours walk yesterday and today and joined ww online.feeling really positive.i would like to thank you all for good advice and suggestions and i never though i would enjoy walking

WorkingHardDFW

Hi all

I just wanted to say a big thanks for all who have posted on here.

I've been on the DFW boards for about nine months now and thankfully our situation has really turned itself around. We've got a long way to go but we've moved such a long way already.

As the week has progressed I've started to think more and more about how the disciplines and good practices I've used in being a DFW'er should be put towards being lighter!!

I'm about two stone overweight and I would really love to see lose at least a stone this year. Why - well to look and feel better of course and to be healthier.

In the past I've done WW's sucessfully and tried high fibre and low carb diets all of which have worked. However I so agree with the coments on this thread about it being in the mind :T . I am intelligent woman, I know what I should and shouldn't eat, how I should exercise and the role model I should be for my children but do I do it ......well suprising sort of..........

When I am in the zone I achieve what I need too but unfortunately I can't seem to get in the right frame of mind neither can I accept that I weight what I do and that is OK - which is of course the other alternative...

Thats my story - sorry to ramble!