Bad attatuide

anne211981

I have a male friend who took voluntry redundancy 6 months ago, he now lives off JSA ect and related benifits. He constantly complains that he has no money, so wouldnt the idea be get up and get a job. He uses the excuse that he has appiled for jobs and waiting to hear, which 4 months ago was right, i fear now its not the case.

Now he's complaning that the J.C has to interview him to see why hes hasnt got work in the last 6 months of looking. He's turned to me and said they wont make me take any job, and i wont work for min wage.

I also think that his attatuide towards getting work is that bad no one would employ him.

i have filled in an application form for him which closing date for the job has just passed. but he said if hes go for the interview he would tell them he cant do weekends (he has his daughter at weekends) he wont work nights and wants to finish work early on a friday. (this job is with HMP) a good job good wage, and stability which he needs.

Its now got to a point where most of his friend are avoiding him or will only spend limited time with him.

has anyone got any advice. hes not a great listener when people try telling him to smarten up cut the hair and stop trying to be a punk. criticisms he wont take on board.

Butterfliesarepretty

Well that is no good is it. I take vol redundancy 30th April, and I am not going to rely on the the job centre for ever, I will be printing off letters to local companies asking about any job vacancies, and I will have to take any job if I do not get one within 3 months as I don't want to dip in my redundancy money too much, want it for savings. He needs to realise that to make yourself feel better you have to push yourself onto employers, present your cv and get personal references from his boss etc, and get himself a suit and smarten up and feel proud that you can do any job, even if its a low wage he could do that while looking for a better job. You can't be too choosy in this day and age, as benefits will not get you very far in paying bills etc.

Oldernotwiser

anne211981 wrote: »

Its now got to a point where most of his friend are avoiding him or will only spend limited time with him.

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My advice would be to do what his other friends do!

Riq

If it has come to the point where you are filling forms in for him then you really need to take a step back.

He is a grown adult and really needs to look after himself.

Nothing wrong with long hair though on a guy.

*flicks hair*

:cheesy:

anne211981

Riq wrote: »

If it has come to the point where you are filling forms in for him then you really need to take a step back.

He is a grown adult and really needs to look after himself.

Nothing wrong with long hair though on a guy.

*flicks hair*

:cheesy:

his hair wouldnt be so bad if it didnt have a tone of gell in it to spike it up. hellriser style.

bassicaly if you met him in a dark alley you would run the other way. first impressions n all that. his aint great.

tawecdl

Don't be hasty,

I have been in a situation where I was unemployed for 7 months and my self esteem was at an all time low. I felt completely down and out. My friends were avoiding me and I never had any money. I was applying for about 5-10 jobs a week (started at about 30 a week) and I was getting no responce. The feeling of being unwanted kicks in and it turns into a vicious circle of getting more depressed and being more unlikely to get a job by the day.


I suggest you give him 1 big chance. If he's a good mate you'd want the best for him. If you spend some time with him. Talk about happy things and have a laugh, avoiding any talk about work. Just make him feel like he's worth something. Hopefully he'd wake up the next morning realising that he is worth something but he needs to do something about his current lifestyle before he loses anything positive that he does have.


Just cheer the guy up and he will do well at interviews!

Miseryschild

I agree with tawecdl - ive been unemployed for a while and getting knocked down by a no answer or them not replying at all can seriously lower/destroy your self-confidence. if you can help him - help him - but if your doing the application forms for him - step back.

Eventually he will be getting in trouble and may end up losing/getting a reduced JSA if he isnt doing enough to find work.

~MC