CSA and bailiffs- Drakes

melie3

hi all,
just need some advice, not sure if this is the right place
my brother had a one night stand 3 yrs ago, allegedly resulting in becoming a father. he never had any relationship with the girl. CSA have obviously been involved, several court appearances etc. he refuses to have DNA test and refuses to pay anything. so now has almost £3000 in arrears and ordered to pay £150 p/w. he does earn good money so i guess could afford this, but is very tight in his ways anyway. he has 2 children who he lives with his partner. Drakes have wrote saying they will visit to collect the arrears etc. he has nothing of any value in his property, only second hand furniture my mum and dad have bought him. he has a 15 yr old car worth probably £500 which he has left at my parents house, as he needs this vehicle as they have a child who has a condition cared for under great ormond street.
today my mother informs me that a hand delivered letter has been delivered to her and dads address. my brother hasnt lived at home for more than a year. on his letter, next to his address is 'address 1'. can they remove property which belongs to my parents?? obviously his car is parked there, so will have to be moved somewhere else. i just feel that too many people are getting affected for my brothers stupidity not to wear a condom, but then it does take 2 to tango too. my dad isnt a very well man, they dont need this at their time of life, along with whats already happening with my brother
advice hugely appreciated
thanks

HHH_2

Why doesnt your brother want to take the DNA test? surely if he already has kids he can see that IF he is the father then he should contribute towards this child and if he isnt then problem solved. He cant really ignore this as it will only get worse. not very helpful advise I know but there doesnt seem to be anything else to suggest!

RapidMongman

Cant you have a sit down discussion with your brother in true "Jeremy Kyle" style, telling him HE has to deal with this. I feel for you and your mum and dad, but not your brother.

melie3

RapidMongman wrote: »

Cant you have a sit down discussion with your brother in true "Jeremy Kyle" style, telling him HE has to deal with this. I feel for you and your mum and dad, but not your brother.

hi,
my brother wont be told, very stubborn. has just tried to forget this happened. he thinks that by ignoring it it will go away. i think my bro should have protected himself for not only pregnancy but obviously STD's, but then also should have this woman. she had already one child fatherless. totally irresponsible to bring another into the world. my brother didnt want to be a father. he has been trapped totally. she is on benefits cannot work because of epilepsy, my brother found out. so she will only benefit from extra £10 p/w whilst my bro has to pay this £3k plus i think there is more arrears and £150 p/w. he is self employed and doesnt earn anything some weeks, but i guess will have to pay the £150. ive tried my best to tell him of what they can do to him. disqualification from driving would put him on dole as he has to drive 120 miles a day to work.

im just worried that bailiffs are gonna remove my parents stuff can they legally do this?? as it has nothing to do with my brother. i really want to ring drakes and see what their playing at, but i wouldnt think i would get any where with them. my dad would go MENTAL if anything was taken from their house.

rayday2

Your brother is not only stubborn but selfish, he has made this problem the famalies.

If I was your family I would write and explain he does not live there and pass on his current address. You cannot take responsibility for him and it is about time he grew up - I think with the baliffs knocking at his door that might just do it!

melie3

rayday2 wrote: »

Your brother is not only stubborn but selfish, he has made this problem the famalies.

If I was your family I would write and explain he does not live there and pass on his current address. You cannot take responsibility for him and it is about time he grew up - I think with the baliffs knocking at his door that might just do it!

totally selfish i agree. but also as a woman cannot believe the stupidity of the mother to get pregnant in the first place. this wasnt a planned pregnancy, both apparently drunk idiots idiots. and both in late 20's too.
the bailiffs have already visited his address. no one was in. on the letter the sent to my brothers address it has beside his address 'address 1'. i just dont know why they are going to my parents which obviously was his previous and only other address, in which he hasnt lived there for over a year. he hasnt any valuables in his property worth much anyway, but my mum and dad could may well have.