Depression Support Thread

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Hello Everybody!:wave:

March 1st is National Self-harm Awareness Day - hence this post...

This is an excellent resource:
https://www.selfharm.net
If you are feeling the urge to cut/harm yourself please go to the site now, & follow links to self help.
If you want to understand why people do this, go to the site.

Did you hear the following when you were young?...
"Stop crying, you're a big girl now"
"Stop being a drama queen"
"Calm down!"
"I'll give you something to cry about"
"You're just lazy"
"You're being hypersensitive"
"You can try harder,can't you?"
"I can tell you're angry. Stop pretending"
etc etc

Messages like this leave us confused about our feelings, and unsure how to handle them. Even non-abusive parents might mean well, but be uncomfortable with negative emotions.

You don't grow up knowing how you feel,and how to deal with it - you are taught these things by your care-givers & teachers. What if you were told that crying is bad, and only for little girls? (Aside - it doesn't take much experience as a Samaritan to debunk that one)

http://www.dotolearn.com/games/feelingsgame/

Generally self-harmers have grown up in environments where there was little opportunity to express feelings at all. Whereas, where there are lots of family rows, at least anger and negative feelings are discussed.

There is a myth that self-harm eg cutting is an impulsive act. The reality is for most self-harmers go through a well versed ritual to prepare themselves for the 'act', and then go to great efforts to dress their wounds and make warm drinks, listen to music, light candles etc afterwards.

There is a myth that self harm is a pointless destructive action. The reality is that for some, it is a well practiced coping mechanism which gets rid of overwhelming painful feelings and keeps suicidal thoughts at bay. ie it "works"...

Take care everyone

CB2X

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meyore wrote: »

Do you still live in Camberley? Thats where OH lives

Xx

Hi Meyore!

Nope, but still often work in Camberley. Moved 2 or 3 years ago to south of Guildford/Farnham area. So still close. Massive redevelopment of Camberley town centre underway....are you planning on a move too...join OH?

Discovered in 2005 that could get a nice new big house for not much more that a small flat. Hence move. Who am I to argue with the property market? Plenty of room if anyone wants to come and stay.....
CB2X

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:



Amen!

Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!:hello:
How's my peeps?
Sincere apologies for the lack of Tiffing guys - all shall be revealed in The Tiff Chronicles ~ Part 8!
Many thanks for the pms and lovely thoughts on the thread - you're an amazing group of souls. And huge hugs to sazzy for acting as messenger on my behalf.And whaddaya mean ''I got 2 weeks off''?! You just get back to that badger-brushing, young lady!

Right then my lovelies, time for...

ROLL CALL!!!
Huge soggy Tiffy hugs (and welcomes!) to...
sazzy (sazbo), ethel (ethelbloggs), bmf, elona, gem (geminilady), ilgd (ilovegreatdanes), gario(gario900), blinky, gilly, cb2, flis, karrie, rose, beer, miro, ltd (learnigtodrive), cat (cat9586), ltf (lipsthefish), lrs (letrobinsonsing), bunnie, goldie(importedgold), tank girl, zippy, pc (poppycracker), rbk, skintaz, pj (poppyjay), rain (rain-is-insane), judders, newlywed, cm (carolnmalky), katie (tulip), mac, jackie (the mad bird), fg (feelinggood), sf (slowly fading), qb (queenswayboy), ccstar, kellie, dawny, fantastico, han, queenie, sh (santashelper), juno, spikey, meyore, hayley, ifa, pet (petrichor), vicky, glad, andi, mum (mumoftwins), pinklady, stebiz, tooties, lisa-m, tao (tao81), westie(westclok), carpy, pink-b (pink butterlfly), skintc (skintcatt), rovers (roversbabe), lisa-d (lisa-derby), dd2 (daisydoughnut2), lewt, hyder, maz (maz123), cham(chameleon), bbbb (bibbitybob), curly(curlywurlygirl), fd (feelingdown), sssssss, pumpkin, su (su4stu), hibees, impy, consp(conspirator), maisie (maisiemay), cif, di (dithedancer), child(child359), star, wfs(whitefeatherspirit), katp, bizzy (bizzybeks), pills, cnmm (conandmattsmum), bltn (betterlatethannever), charlene, vb(velocityboy), sp(smallpackages), gill, lisa-ew(elegantly wasted), welsh(welsh worrier ), lass(loopy lass - I can't call you loopy angel!), chelly(chellysays), bobsa, shelby (shelby161), john roberts (john-r), juliav, antronella, steph, new cook, catsavingexpert (cse), shaz, lfh (looking for help), tdmmdi (the devil made me do it), gillh (gillianh2), wmf(weymuffred), lou (loublue), suki (suki1964), toothsmith, katyk, bay(bailey), ree (reehsetin), jen (jen.eng), specialk, li (limana68), shelley (fallen angel shelly), shawz, tom (tomstickland), horace, purplegirluk(purple), miss tbc(tbc), ecoelle, nicifer(nic), diamond78 (diamond), grace, wo*f, weegie, gill07, big-board (bigb), moonrakermagpie(magpie), karen23, deals, pug(pug-in-a-bed ), mumh(mumhug), nats3006 (nats), tote alley stressed (tote), littleone83 (lo83), piggeh, lexa34 (lexa), iom (iom-rf), hooters, wanty(iwanttosave), hev, haribo(haribo-junkie), quasar, ws100(windowshopper-100), turkishd(turkishdelight), nopot(nopot2pin), littlemissmoney (missy), oompah, chocomum (choco), skollieal (skoll), truthseeker (truth), week, angellotz (angell), beachbeth (beth), whitevanwoman (wvw), cat64, redruby (red), setmefree2 (set), rainbow child (rainbow), marru, et al.

Sorry I can't manage to do any more atm, guys.....still gutted that no-one took me up on my proposal last night! Maybe if I'd done it MSE- style and thrown sazzy and ethel in - y'know, a 3-for-1 type of deal?...Hmmm... :think:

I shall return at some point in the near future to discuss with several of you, the subject of the sudden appearance of my 5th home!


Oh yes - and finally...

HAPPY ST.DAVID'S DAY!

Thinking of you all. Back as soon as I can.
Safe journeys guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Horasio

clipboard2 wrote: »

Hello Everybody!:wave:

March 1st is National Self-harm Awareness Day - hence this post...

This is an excellent resource:
www.selfharm.net
If you are feeling the urge to cut/harm yourself please go to the site now, & follow links to self help.
If you want to understand why people do this, go to the site.

Did you hear the following when you were young?...
"Stop crying, you're a big girl now"
"Stop being a drama queen"
"Calm down!"
"I'll give you something to cry about"
"You're just lazy"
"You're being hypersensitive"
"You can try harder,can't you?"
"I can tell you're angry. Stop pretending"
etc etc

Messages like this leave us confused about our feelings, and unsure how to handle them. Even non-abusive parents might mean well, but be uncomfortable with negative emotions.

You don't grow up knowing how you feel,and how to deal with it - you are taught these things by your care-givers & teachers. What if you were told that crying is bad, and only for little girls? (Aside - it doesn't take much experience as a Samaritan to debunk that one)

http://www.dotolearn.com/games/feelingsgame/

Generally self-harmers have grown up in environments where there was little opportunity to express feelings at all. Whereas, where there are lots of family rows, at least anger and negative feelings are discussed.

There is a myth that self-harm eg cutting is an impulsive act. The reality is for most self-harmers go through a well versed ritual to prepare themselves for the 'act', and then go to great efforts to dress their wounds and make warm drinks, listen to music, light candles etc afterwards.

There is a myth that self harm is a pointless destructive action. The reality is that for some, it is a well practiced coping mechanism which gets rid of overwhelming painful feelings and keeps suicidal thoughts at bay. ie it "works"...

Take care everyone

CB2X

That is so true. I don't self harm but have been close and have been spoken to in that way when saying how I feel.

Horasio

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Hi Meyore!

Nope, but still often work in Camberley. Moved 2 or 3 years ago to south of Guildford/Farnham area. So still close. Massive redevelopment of Camberley town centre underway....are you planning on a move too...join OH?

Discovered in 2005 that could get a nice new big house for not much more that a small flat. Hence move. Who am I to argue with the property market? Plenty of room if anyone wants to come and stay.....
CB2X

I used to live in Camberley and moving to Hampshire in 3 weeks. I am going back to my roots - should be quite interesting:)

Horasio

shazrobo wrote: »

cc glad you have found somewhere suitable to live, the waiting will soon be over
sf hope the meeting went well this afternoon
katie, hope you had a good dy at your pottery class
sazbo, hope the cold goes away soon
steph, let us know how you got on with the accupuncturist, i am interested in trying alternative therapies, will try most things once
diamond, sorry you couldn't attend the course, hope you can find one with times to suit you soon.
big hugs to everyone, and apologies to anyone i've missed
shaz x

Complementary therapies are great.

The best ones for me are colour therapy and aromatherapy. Everyone has a feeling about a smell and a colour.

ilovegreatdanes

hi all.
tiff......its so lovely to hear from you.xxxxx glad you found our new home....and hope all is well in yours.you have been away spring cleaning, havent you???now we know.
i always thought sazzy was good at multi tasking, as in she is on hols, badger brushing and eating smarties all at the same time......all credit to her, i say.

DAWNYLOU.....HAPPY BIRTHDAY.....AND MANY MORE,XXXXXXX
we only need BMF to make an appearance and we are sorted!!!

SF.....why cant tutors realise that they should encourage ppl instead of critisizing them then the pupils would feel valued.keep on with it, and wave your qual in his face at the end and just say ...i told you so, xxx

time is over so must away,
hope you all have a good davids day!!

dont moan, just made it up quik!!!!im not shelley or keats ,you know.
love ilgd xx

antronella

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAWNYLOU! :beer:



hope you have a lovely day!

love antronella x

Sazbo

ilovegreatdanes wrote: »

hi all.
i always thought sazzy was good at multi tasking, as in she is on hols, badger brushing and eating smarties all at the same time......all credit to her, i say.

:rotfl:Years of practice hun, i got it down to a fine art:D Coz tiff always got her beady eye on me, so no slacking;)

ilovegreatdanes wrote: »

dont moan, just made it up quik!!!!im not shelley or keats ,you know.
love ilgd xx

Who needs shelley or keats? We got you! :T :kisses3:

Have a great day hun.

Much love sazzy xxxx