The girlfriend needs your help....seriously

UK007BullDog

Only you will know.

I suggest you go to a neutral place and talk it through no matter how uncomfortable it is. If she cannot do it then I guess you will have to walk away. If she really does love you she will follow.

The mother would have to sell the property as the rental does not cover the interest only part of the mortgage if she cannot find the £250 a month herself.

Seems that the two are emotionally as well as financially bound. It will be very hard for her to forsake her mother. Would you be able to live with that in the future if you ever have a row and the GF will say it was your fault she misses her mum?

The move will have to come from her, no good pushing. If the daughter is a mealticket the mother will fight hard and dirty to keep it that way. Hence you having to move up there and you losing all of your contacts and work.

wockawocka

UK007BullDog wrote: »

Only you will know.

I suggest you go to a neutral place and talk it through no matter how uncomfortable it is. If she cannot do it then I guess you will have to walk away. If she really does love you she will follow.

The mother would have to sell the property as the rental does not cover the interest only part of the mortgage if she cannot find the £250 a month herself.

Seems that the two are emotionally as well as financially bound. It will be very hard for her to forsake her mother. Would you be able to live with that in the future if you ever have a row and the GF will say it was your fault she misses her mum?

The move will have to come from her, no good pushing. If the daughter is a mealticket the mother will fight hard and dirty to keep it that way. Hence you having to move up there and you losing all of your contacts and work.

You have it summed up quite well there BD

janes__addiction

if you love her as much as you say you do then you should give the girl a break i mean come on you know that her mam's taking liberties with her im guessing shes under enough stress as it is then your there giving her grief im sure shes feeling pressured from both sides.
has your girlfriend said she doesnt want to be financially tied to her mam? if not then maybe your ultimatums of breaking all financial ties with her mam are making her stressed more. its bad enough she has her mam emotionally blackmailing her but you are almost as bad i know you have her best interests at heart but pushing her to break away from her mam might make her break away from you instead .
go easy on her and just remember she's known her mam all her life.

Trollfever

An interesting thread.