Boss' comments - am I being over sensitive?

ecoelle

i think it's great that you work and your partner looks after the kids, me and my partner plan to do this when we have children a i get better pay and benefits than him. I would be so angry if someone made a judgment about my lifestyle. I think you should let it lie but if she says anything else then just tell her you don't appreciate her remarks about your choice of lifestyle. As to the biscuit thing...petty much? If that's all she's got to worry about she's laughing! My goodness does she have so little work to do that she can monitor who buys biscuits each day and how many each individual has...bet she has a spreadsheet on it! tee hee!

Loretta

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

It's irrelevent whether some people consider a one income lifestyle to be a luxury or not. And the OP didn't say things were tight, she said she was working to a budget.

This problem is about someone not understanding the choice to look after one's own children, not about lack of money.

I agree her lifestyle is not her boss's business

misty

Tell the one who mentioned the biscuits - your just jealous cos you can't have one - then get another one out, lick and say oh it's sooooooooo delicious yum, yum, yum.

If the one who says your husband should get a job - says it again - tell her to F#CK OFF and then when she looks shocked - ask her in a concerned voice what's wrong and deny saying anything. If she tells anyone else - you could imply all the sessions in the pub have addled her brain!










I am joking before anyone starts - just console yourself that she is a sad individual and you've got a great husband. If anyone else eats a biscuit tell them you licked them all to see which one you liked.

Lavendyr

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

It's irrelevent whether some people consider a one income lifestyle to be a luxury or not. And the OP didn't say things were tight, she said she was working to a budget.

Presumably a tight or strict budget if she doesn't want to bring in a packet of biscuits, though. I'm not criticising the OP in any way and would like to make that clear - as I said, it is the OP's choice.

Nor is my point irrelevant - it's all a part of understanding the motivation behind the boss's comments, which, I would have thought, would help the OP to deal with the boss. The OP can see that she's made one choice whereas her boss has made another.The boss appears to resent not having had the 'luxury' of that choice, hence the catty and inappropriate comments. Perhaps a level of understanding would help the OP to deal with the situation better, and even to forgive her boss for her comments.

antilles

Slap her one in the mouth.

Seriously though, please don't be pressured into taking a packet of biscuits in because of such a petty comment. If you do, you'll only be lining yourself up for another petty comment like - "ooh - these biscuits are a bit cheap aren't they", or similar.

Don't waste your time rising to the comments of sad, petty morons. She's just jealous cause she can't eat a biscuit. Give it a few months, she'll upset a few more people, and she'll move onto another company - these kind of people don't last in jobs as nobody likes them.

Sassers

Primrose wrote: »

Why not take in some home-made biscuits made by your stay-at-home husband? That might make a point which will not be lost on everybody else.

I'd do that as well IMHO and make a point of saying - very nicely as she took a bite - that SAHH made them and the babies/children licked them all to see which were the best and then watch her face

By the way, you don't work in my office do you - as reading your OP my hackles started rising as my workplace is similar.........:mad:

G-G_4

She obviously feels threatened by your set up, otherwise why would she comment? Very odd indeed.. especially infront of others, I can see why you are annoyed.

All I will say is, I have walked out of many pretty decent jobs because I am pig headed and stubborn and not willing to take any rubbish from anyone. Try and ignore it, if you and hubby are ok with your situation then what does it matter what she thinks.

I can only imagine she says these things to get to you, don't give her the satisfaction.

& don't take biscuits in either..! It's not your job to feed the office with processed rubbish. If she asks next time tell her that you think the 'office' needs to lose weight and you're helping them by not bringing them in.

& if she comments on hubby, just ignore her comment and say something like 'oh, that reminds me, the other day hubby and kids cooked me the best tea every, I was so proud'...

x

floss2

ecoelle wrote: »

My goodness does she have so little work to do .....

Reminded me of an ex-boss I had who kept note when i failed to do any part of my own job, but didn't keep note of when I covered for her job during conferences / meetings / holidays / sickness / marriage troubles etc.......which was when we realised how much / little she actually did. I got so fed up of being kept tabs on & the accompanying bullying from her that I left.

She was a bit like the OP's boss with biscuits too.....would happily eat the ones I had on my desk, but wouldn't pass hers round!

Gingham_Ribbon

Lavendyr wrote: »

Presumably a tight or strict budget if she doesn't want to bring in a packet of biscuits, though. I'm not criticising the OP in any way and would like to make that clear - as I said, it is the OP's choice.

I don't understand. Excuse my lack of knowledge of office politics but:

if someone goes on holiday and brings in biscuits for everyone to help themselves, doesn't that mean people can help themselves? Or does it genuinely mean that only those who ALSO bring in biscuits can take one? What is the reason for expecting the OP to bring her own in?