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First time taking the leap - can no longer afford my repayments - PLEASE HELP
Hi all,
My unsecured debt repayments have become unaffordable and I would appreciate your advice on next steps.
Background
I am a self-employed contractor which means I earn a good wage while I am working, however there have been lengthy gaps between contracts where I have earned nothing at all. This, paired with vital home improvement costs have led to me owing a large sum across multiple credit cards and 2 loans. I am currently earning £48,000/year however my current contract expires in 3 months’ time.
All of my debts are unsecured and up until now have been maintained with minimum payments. I have to borrow money however from family to make ends meet each month.
I’ve included a list of my creditors (in no particular order) below;
Creditor | Balance |
MBNA Loan | £10,000 |
Santander 2204 | £5,719 |
Santander 6491 | £4,699 |
Barclaycard | £952 |
NatWest 4579 | £2,100 |
NatWest 8035 | £7,455 |
Family Loan | £17,014 |
Current Actions
Yesterday I cancelled all of my direct debits and will not be making any further repayments. My aim is to have all my creditors issue a default while I look into arranging a DMP with Step Change.
After reading through the helpful forums on here, I have set up a new current account with an unrelated bank and have had my salary and priority bills (phone etc) transferred over.
This will be my first month of arrears, so I expect to receive letters/calls etc from all providers.
Questions
1. Am I right in my approach to cancel all debt payments and save this money to create a buffer? If so, how long should I plan to do this before beginning a DMP?
2. What communication, if any, should I have with the creditors?
3. Should I be making complaints to my creditors for unethical lending?
4. Is there anything else I am missing which could help me make the best of this poor situation?
Thank you in advance.
SOA:
| Total income | £ 3,173.33 | |
| Total spending | £ 2,770.42 |
| Mortgage payment | £ 822.76 | Month | |
| Buildings insurance | £ 20.32 | Year | |
| Council Tax or Rates | £ 193.00 | Month | |
| Gas | £ 130.00 | Month | |
| Electricity | £ 100.00 | Month | |
| Water | £ 86.00 | quarter | |
| Home phone and broadband | £ 24.00 | Month | |
| Mobile phone | £ 27.00 | Month | |
| TV licence | £ 13.50 | Month |
| Grocery shopping | £ 75.00 | Week | |
| Takeaways | £ 10.00 | week |
| Clothes | £ 240.00 | Year |
| Hairdressing | £ 40.00 | Quarter | |
| Toiletries | £ 10.00 | month | |
| Eye care | £ 200.00 | Year | |
| Prescriptions & medicines | £ 10.00 | Month |
| Bank account fees | £ 26.00 | month |
| Activities & clubs | £ 20.00 | Month |
| Loan repayment to family/friend | £ 347.45 | Month |
| Petrol/diesel | £ 80.00 | Month | |
| Car insurance | £ 350.00 | Year | |
| Car tax | £ 200.00 | Year | |
| MOT | £ 50.00 | Year |
| TV, music, media and gaming subscriptions | £ 40.00 | Month | |
| Hobbies | £ 45.00 | week | |
| Health & fitness | £ 55.00 | 2 weeks | |
| Birthdays | £ 100.00 | Year | |
| Christmas | £ 200.00 | Year |
Spending breakdown | Totals per month | % of all expenses | |
| Household bills | £ 1,340.62 | 50% | |
| Living costs | £ 439.35 | 16% | |
| Finance & insurance | £ 26.00 | 1% | |
| Family & friends | £ 367.45 | 14% | |
| Travel | £ 130.00 | 5% | |
| Leisure | £ 380.03 | 14% |
Comments
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You are doing the right things for now
Review the situation in 3 months when hopefully a new work contract will be in view.
On q2,3,4 there is little point in engaging with the lenders as it just slows down the default process. There is no downside to affordability complaints. I can't think of anything else1 -
Comments on your SOA;
- your water seems high, how many in the household? are you on a meter?
- groceries at £75 per week, depends on how many people this covers, do you meal plan and batch cook?
- takeaways at £10 per week, can you ditch this and make your own ‘fakeaway’ for a while?
- clothes at £240 a year, can you try Vinted for purchases? And while you are at, is there anything you can declutter and sell?- activities and clubs, tv, music and gaming, hobbies and your health & fitness are costing you £4,490 each year. That is a lot of money, can you make cutbacks here?I’m a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on the Pension, Debt Free Wanabee, and Over 50 Money Saving boards. If you need any help on these boards, do let me know. Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any posts you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the Report button, or by e-mailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.0 -
Hi,Smudgeismydog said:Comments on your SOA;
- your water seems high, how many in the household? are you on a meter?
- groceries at £75 per week, depends on how many people this covers, do you meal plan and batch cook?
- takeaways at £10 per week, can you ditch this and make your own ‘fakeaway’ for a while?
- clothes at £240 a year, can you try Vinted for purchases? And while you are at, is there anything you can declutter and sell?- activities and clubs, tv, music and gaming, hobbies and your health & fitness are costing you £4,490 each year. That is a lot of money, can you make cutbacks here?
1. Water is based on two adults and a newborn. I think we're on estimated readings but I'm not sure how to change that as the meters in the road and impractical to read regularly.
2. The £75 includes most cleaning, toiletry and baby items like nappies etc.
3. Takeaways are worst case scenario if we happen to be out and need a bite. Generally don't get takeaways when we're at home.
4. £240 is based on the fact I'll probably need new office clothes/shoes for my new job. Currently selling as much as I can on vinted.
5. The spending on hobbies/ health and fitness is for physio and training helping to rehabilitate to injuries. I could probably make some cut backs though yes.
Thanks for the advice 👍0 -
Thanks for your message - what would you suggest I do when my contract comes through? I only ask because my I come will come down and that, of course, restricts my choices.fatbelly said:You are doing the right things for now
Review the situation in 3 months when hopefully a new work contract will be in view.
On q2,3,4 there is little point in engaging with the lenders as it just slows down the default process. There is no downside to affordability complaints. I can't think of anything else0 -
You need to budget for when your income comes down.
What can you actually afford when that happens?
Do you have any rainy day savings?If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing1 -
Hi RAS. Thanks for your message - as it stands I'll be able to afford very little when my income changes. I have done an estimated/preliminary SOA for that situation however I haven't posted it as anything could change between now and then.RAS said:You need to budget for when your income comes down.
What can you actually afford when that happens?
Do you have any rainy day savings?
I do not have any savings/emergency funds. I'll try to build something from the money recuperated from the cancelled repayments until they default.0 -
In your shoes, as well as ring fencing the payments which would otherwise have gone to the debt you are no longer paying, I would also be posting that SOA to have an eye run over where else savings might be made that you might have missed. It's certainly a sensible plan to cut things to the bone now with a view to stashing as much as possible away for any lean months, and going forwards, you need a 6 month EF in place more than most.🎉 MORTGAGE FREE (First time!) 30/09/2016 🎉 And now we go again…New mortgage taken 01/09/23 🏡
Balance as at 01/09/23 = £115,000.00 Balance as at 31/12/23 = £112,000.00
Balance as at 31/08/24 = £105,400.00 Balance as at 31/12/24 = £102,500.00
£100k barrier broken 1/4/25
Balance as at 31/08/25 = £ 95,450.00. Balance as at 31/12/25 = £ 91,100.00
SOA CALCULATOR (for DFW newbies): SOA Calculatorshe/her2 -
You won`t be able to use Stepchange for a DMP, as they don`t deal with the self employed, I believe Payplan do though.I’m a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on the Debt free wannabe, Credit file and ratings, and Bankruptcy and living with it boards. If you need any help on these boards, do let me know. Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any posts you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button, or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.For free non-judgemental debt advice, contact either Stepchange, National Debtline, or CitizensAdviceBureaux.Link to SOA Calculator- https://www.stoozing.com/soa.php The "provit letter" is here-https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/2607247/letter-when-you-know-nothing-about-about-the-debt-aka-prove-it-letter1
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Ahh okay I forgot about that.
The way I'm employed is through an umbrella company so they act like my employer (sort out pension, tax etc) so I'm not sure if thats still considered self-employed? It's more like a fixed term contract thats definitely going to end.Nonetheless I'll get onto Payplan. Thanks
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Electric and gas should be more or less two-thirds of that unless you have an extremely drafty house or like the heating on a lot.
Water should be around £30 if you are on a meter. If not, get on one.
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