Missing previous job

monkey-fingers

FlyMeSomewhere79 said:

savings37 said:

I was made redundant in July due to company depot closures, I had been employed almost 13 years. I have since had 5 jobs. First was 3 weeks, second 1 week, third 2 days 🫣, forth 3 weeks and I'm currently on my fifth job and into my second week.

The unsettling feeling is returning, I'm still training but the pressure is ramping up, the feeling of being out of my depth, getting more responsibility and seeing that the jobs are different from what I expected them to be. 

I find myself just wanting things to return to how they were this time last year, comfortable with my job and a good bunch of colleagues and customers to deal with (with the odd exception) I was well respected, knew the job inside out and could handle all issues thrown at me.

I'm so unhappy with the situation and I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I'm exhausting all jobs available to me. I wouldn't know what to retrain in even if it was an option. 

I was made redundant last year and I totally empathise with missing the job and the people you loved working with and having to adjust to a new role. 

Whereas I was made redundant from a long-standing job in August and realised now that I was being gaslit by my Manager who micro-managed everything. I'd worked for the company for nearly 30 years.

I am a specialist consultant and after 4 years in the last role achieved virtually nothing.

It's sometimes not until you leave that you realise this.

I've joined a new company who are honest and open to change. My mental health is already 100x better.

I have a few old colleagues who I very much keep in touch with.

TELLIT01

Looking back on what you are missing isn't just pointless, it's self-destructive.  You have to accept both the fact that the job is gone, and that any new job will never be the same as your old one.  You haven't given the new jobs a chance.