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floss2 wrote: »

At the end of the day, your daughter is an adult - and effectively she will be a lodger. Would you expect an adult / lodger to have the smallest room and to have to do daily routine things like make-up in the family bathroom? I certainly wouldn't, and this is a regular discussion topic in our home, as despite being a 4-bedroomed house, we don't have room to potentially accomodate 2 adult DS's when they graduate in 2 more years, as the attic is DF's home-office (home-based job), the boxroom is our office / book storage, and I wouldn't expect them to share the spare room.

Maybe you & OH could move into the attic, and have the en-suite, then DD could have your room?

Thats ok if you charge her the full lodgers rent. Most parents, including myself only charge a minimal amount.

GreyPilgrim

I took the cheapest room in a shared house at uni as it was going for £40 a week, which was quite cheap. Picture this:

lengthwise, I could just fit a single mattress against the far wall (it was about two inches too long, so it was scrunched up against one end). widthwise, there was about a couple of foot between the side of the mattress and the other wall. It would have been a squeeze to lie an identical mattress next to it. I had books up on the shelf, my portable tv on the floor in the corner of the room next to my head...and that was about it.

I kept my clothes on a rack on the landing outside the bedroom door which was at the end of the hall so it didn't really bother anyone else (and I didn't have that many anyway)

I even shared it with my girlfriend for a couple of months!!

Think I'm trying to say it's not really the end of the world having the box room. You can make it quite cosy and personal.

And on the bright side, when she does get a place of her own, she'll appreciate the space a hell of a lot more.

GreyPilgrim

I hope that last post didn't come across as a "my life is tougher than yours" post. I just wanted to say that box-rooms aint the end of the world. I really loved my little hideaway den box room, and hoovering time was minimal

Sassers

I lived in a box room when I left uni. It was just big enough for a single bed with space one side about a metre and a half.
What my carpenter friend did was build me a raised bed - using recycled wood - with space underneath for a small wardobe and shelves.
He also put up tiny corner shelves for my cd's and make-up and I also had one of those TV wall holder things over the top of that.
I also had one of those metal door hangers to put other stuff.
The room might have been the box room but I squeezed loads of space out of it - I remember on of my mates coming round and saying how envious she was as I'd charity shopped and got these humungous red velvet curtains. One got turned into a smaller pair of curtains for the window and the other got turned into a bed throw with matching cushions...
Oh...and I remember bacause the walls were quite high..... I had a shelf over the window for loads of books. The sill had my CD player on it.
I really loved that room - it was small but really cosy and comfy - maybe that might help you and DD?
love Sassers x

GreyPilgrim

Sassers wrote: »

I lived in a box room when I left uni. It was just big enough for a single bed with space one side about a metre and a half.

A metre and a half? Luxury...

Sassers

GreyPilgrim wrote: »

A metre and a half? Luxury...