Financial advisors / accountants who specialise in debt?

MEM62

Help1988 said:

Then we needed stuff for the house, which he wasn’t going to pay for 

Help1988 said:

Then we had a wedding booked, but the costs of that grew and he wasn’t going to pay

Help1988 said:

The relationship became worse and worse, as the years have gone on, so expensive convenience food spending and depressive  “cheer-me-up” spending increased. 

It sounds to me as if you have a relationship problem, not just a debt problem and both need resolving.  Are you still in this relationship?  Why does he not want to pay for joint expenses?  Of curse we do not have the full picture from one post but I would be concerned that you are being financially abused.    

peb

I agree with Stymied.   Start a diary on diary section, post regularly, if you have an urge to spend post, if you are feeling down, post.   There's a lot of support.  Read other diaries for ideas and to support those posters.

And leave your cards at home, cut up if possible, and make sure they aren't on any devices/shopping sites etc