Old Style daily Sunday 4th August 2024

mehefin

Morning all from Mehefinland,
Firstly, thank you all for your lovely comments, and sage advice re my current situation. I am leaning towards the hybrid of cremation and ashes internment, and in truth I think that was in the back of my mind anyway, and sort of complies with Dawn's wishes. 

I think what hurts the most is the speed and absolute suddenness of events. My late father had the same diagnosis and lived subsequently for a further 18 months. Having had the news on Monday and with this previous knowledge I had thought I would have some time with her before the inevitable. Time in which to make memories etc, all of which was cruelly taken away.
I AM coming to terms with it, and as others will undoubtedly know ,it isn't an easy path.

My friends, neighbours, what little family I have left , and your goodselves have been truly amazing and supportive. Thank you.

A little story of some of the aftermath of her passing. Trying to keep myself occupied I decided to sort out her jewellry and put it back in it's boxes( she always left it lying about  - a source of some irritation and occasional words ). Most of it was sorted but I could not find the pendant which I was the first 'big' thing I had bought  her with the exception of the wedding band. It is a silver horse's head on a very fine chain. It was a limited edition  (No.2 of 250) made by a lady called Rosemary Hethrington of a company called Sculpture to Wear. Bare in mind that when we first married the mortgage rate was 18% and we struggled, so had been a major investment.
I searched high and low for this beautiful piece, knowing that she had been wearing it at our last meal out to celebrate our WA. Last night I just fancied a chocolate, as you do, and there it was, nestling in the glass sweet dish, almost as if it was shouting "Surprise"!. Relief and emotion all rolled into one.
Right,ned to a wiggle on before he arrival of DS

Hugs and spoons as always
Mehefin

ScarletRibbons

Good morning Mehefin and all to follow, thanks for starting.

Glad you've decided what to do in relation to Dawn's funeral. As you say, it's the speed of events that made it all much worse.

The necklace sounds beautiful, I'm pleased that you found it. 
Hope you and ds will be able to comfort and support one another.

Nothing much happening here today, we went on a long walk along the beach yesterday, it was busy there. Even the breeze was warm, which is unusual on the East coast, usually there's an edge to it.

Thinking of those who are poorly or struggling with life, take care folks.

Florenceem

Morning all.
Took lots of photos yesterday so got listing to do on Vinte. before I get ready for Church.

camelot1001

Morning All

Thanks for the start Mehefin, glad you have a plan and have found the necklace, these things always turn up when we stop looking!

We were forecast a showery day yesterday but it was really warm and sunny, didn't rain until about 5pm so the washing was all dried outside, I now have 3 beds to make up but there's no hurry for that.

 I picked a large bag full of peas and a few beans, after a slow start everything is growing nicely. Another couple of hours at the new allotment saw me half way to digging over the plot, if the threatened rain stays off today I'll get another bit done. I can't see anything apart from potatoes growing for the next couple of years as the soil is so poor but we'll see.

A walk along the beach sounds great Scarlet, I must do that soon.

Hope you all have a peaceful Sunday, take care. XX

TravellingAbuela

Morning folks and thanks Mehefin for the start. I'm glad that you have come to a decision. A friend did just the same when his wife died, he said it gives him comfort to go to the grave when he wants to chat to her.

A quickie as I'm just waiting for DS to take me home.. All packed and cleaned in readiness. I could happily live here for the rest of the summer, I think I'm turning into a recluse! 

Have a good day if you can and (HUGS) for all in need. Thoughts are with Mehefin and our poorlies. Take care all xx

IzzyBee

Morning everyone Mehefin you will have lots going round in your head all made so much harder by the speed of Dawns passing all you can do is take things as they come I hope your family can be a comfort to you the necklace sounds beautiful I’m pleased you found it or did Dawn help you find it by giving you a little nudge take care of yourself it’s very early days . Not a lot going on here rainy this morning but it looks to be clearing up now I’ve got a little beef joint in the oven I will make dinner later but otherwise not a lot going on . Thinking of all the poorlies hugs to those that need them have a good day everyone whatever you are doing 

RosyRed

Morning all, it's raining a bit here after a good but  slightly cooler day yesterday.

Thanks for starting Mehefin. I'm glad you are moving towards a decision for Dawn's funeral. I'm sure it's going to be an emotional time for you when DS arrives. The necklace sounds lovely & unusual, glad you found it, one of those things where you can't rest until you know it's safe.

Speaking of things being safe, when I took DGS to town and we sat having a drink in the shopping centre I must have put my little flat bag on the bench, & bigger bag on the floor. Muppet me must have left it there It didn't have much in apart from my house keys and a £20 note in the side pocket so I realised when we got back as DS had put the snack on the lock. Luckily he was in, looked in my big bag- no little bag. Thinking it would be long gone I didn't do anything until  a family member who was up at the park with us said she'd ring as she used to work there. It had been handed in & once I'd told him what was in to identify it, it was put away safely until I picked it up, so thankful that there are some honest people out there still . DH was grumbling at me saying 'do you know how much it costs for new keys?' well yes, but I didn't do it on purpose ;)He is being a bit grumpy because his hip is troubling him,he has a call with his consultant next week.

Busy day yesterday so a quiet one on the cards today.Got a few bits and pieces for tea today, not sure we'll be able to sit outside though.

Hugs & spoons for those in need .

Gers

Morning all, thanks for starting us off @mehefin. You'll feel some measure of relief now that the big decision has been made and comforted by finding the sentimental pendant. I hope that the arrival of your DS also brings comfort to you. Sudden deaths always seem more dreadful.  Love to you.

Yesterday the weather was simply dreadful all morning and not much better in the afternoon. Driving rain and wind lashed the house with rivers of water running down the windows.  Any thoughts of going out were swiftly forgotten so I am still harbouring a large bag of recyclables, perhaps tomorrow will be the day for it. I occupied myself with attacking the deep windowsill in the utility room which had become a sort of unruly pantry. It also has the printer on it.  The box of unknowns was explored, sorted out, the box flattened and put in the very full recycling bag. A lingering packet of German Christmas biscuits was opened and sampled. Not my favourite which is why it was still hanging around.

Today is looking rather watery, This morning I've already entertained myself with watc hing the swallows swoop around the sky for their breakfast,I find it endlessly fascinating.  In the early mornings some of them line up on the telephone wire attached to my front wall to feast on the insects which must be in the stone. They mostly take turns in shuffling up to the wall in a very orderly fashion though this morning one in the middle of three pecked and pecked at the next down the line until it flew off. Even swallows get bullied!

@TA - I am already mostly a recluse and very happy to be so.

@Rosy - well done on finding your forgotten bag. You were lucky. I dropped my Airpods whilst at my hairdressers on Friday, outside the salon. Despite being able to see where they were on FindMy and my lovely hairdresser going outside to look they were gone. Half-inched or flattened! FindMy wasn't able to track them after that. My own stupid fault but still rather annoying.

@Camelot - your industry is amazing! All that back-breaking work must be exhausting.

I hope that all are well or getting better.

Floss

@mehefin you sound a little more settled on Dawn's wishes now, and I'm sure she helped you find her mislaid pendant. 

@Gers Love the queueing swallows! I have bird feeders in my garden and the sparrows, bluetits, goldfinches & coaltits all queue up in the shrubby-tree at the side. It's like an airport departures gate sometimes, lots of twittering & shuffling about as it get near their turn!

mehefin

Hi All
Just popping to report that Scooby was ok after. I know somebody asked but for the life of me I can't remember who. Mr W just delivered with only one sub so that's sorted for the next few days.
Mehefin

RedRuby1231

Morning all

Mehefin losing someone suddenly is always hard my brother was given 3 months to live after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, the end was very quick and he died five weeks later it’s still hard to come to terms with it, sending lots of love to you and I hope your DS will bring you some comfort xx

Looks to be a nice day although not as sunny as it has been it’s nice enough to sit out for dinner which we enjoy doing. WM has just finished with one load and another to go in.

Dogs to be walked later maybe in the woods where it’s cooler, house is clean and tidy but the DW needs emptying and refilling.

Have good days all and take care xx