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Changing Child Maintenance Payments

Yuzo
Yuzo Posts: 111 Forumite
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Me and the ex wife came to an agreement we would use the child maintenance figure from the government website, I pay her based on me having the children 2 nights a week.

Is it reasonable for me to change the amount on a month to month basis. As I am having them half the summer holidays (50/50 care), so surely I should pay nothing that month? .. and then revert back to our old routine payment the months after... and could she actually pay me that month if have them say a week more than her?

PS. She has bought me out of our ex marital home.

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  • marcia_
    marcia_ Posts: 3,834 Forumite
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     I would say she should be giving you child maintenance for the long periods they are with you. 
  • jefaz07
    jefaz07 Posts: 638 Forumite
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    Child maintenance is in brackets. For a certain amount of overnight stays per year. I suggest you work these out and see where you fall. If it falls in the bigger bracket then ask for more. 
  • Penguin_
    Penguin_ Posts: 1,594 Forumite
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    Would it be easier for you to work out how many nights you have your children each year & base the figure on that? Makes life much easier than a constantly changing figure.
  • theoretica
    theoretica Posts: 12,691 Forumite
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    You have an agreement - it is fair to agree on something different, but not reasonable for you to unilaterally impose a change.
    As said above, if you have agreed to follow the government website, that does not include month by month changes.

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  • Yuzo
    Yuzo Posts: 111 Forumite
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    Thanks for all your help.

    As mentioned above I have just seen the yearly brackets on the website. And even though I am having them half the school holidays it still comes under 2-3 nights, so it makes no difference :)
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