Struggling to settle in new role

tuck60

Hi All,

After 5 years with 1 my last company I took a new job offer around and am now 4 weeks in, about to start my 5th week.

I left my previous job because there had been a takeover and the threat of redundancy loomed.

I don’t feel like I’ve settled too well into the new role and the culture is very different to what I was expecting. It’s a well paid job so I feel there is pressure to delvier and make it work. My partner and myself have a mortgage etc so its not as simple as going to find another job.

I feel my confidence is draining while I am there and I come home unhappy etc with it impacting my sleep. I know its only been 4 weeks and I will of course give it more time but any tips/words would be appreciated.

Thanks

Marcon

tuck60 said:

Hi All,

After 5 years with 1 my last company I took a new job offer around and am now 4 weeks in, about to start my 5th week.

I left my previous job because there had been a takeover and the threat of redundancy loomed.

I don’t feel like I’ve settled too well into the new role and the culture is very different to what I was expecting. It’s a well paid job so I feel there is pressure to delvier and make it work. My partner and myself have a mortgage etc so its not as simple as going to find another job.

I feel my confidence is draining while I am there and I come home unhappy etc with it impacting my sleep. I know its only been 4 weeks and I will of course give it more time but any tips/words would be appreciated.

Thanks

As you say, it's only been 4 weeks. Blithely telling someone to 'give it time' is easy to do but rather harder to swallow when you're on the receiving end of that comment, but that doesn't alter the fact that it might well be the best advice you'll get, at least for now.

Set yourself an 'end date' for reviewing whether or not things are working out - say 3 months from now - so that you don't feel you have an open-ended sentence (the hardest type to serve) if it turns out that the job really isn't for you.

In the meantime, think about why your confidence is draining. Are you actually failing, or simply feeling that you are because the culture isn't what you'd expected? Were your expectations ever real?

tuck60 said:

It’s a well paid job so I feel there is pressure to delvier and make it work. My partner and myself have a mortgage etc so its not as simple as going to find another job.

Why not? You found this job after 5 years with another employer, so you're clearly very employable. Have you discussed it with your partner? That might help to alleviate some of the pressure, which might just be more self-imposed than real...

TELLIT01

If there are specific areas of the new job that are concerning you, you need to speak to your line manager.  Laying awake at night worrying isn't going to do you any good.

Charlotte_Ca

I've been there so I know how it feels

My first point of advise is to take it day by day and find something that you like about this place/job and keep thinking of this to motivate you to go there.

Then think what is it that you don't like it and make it work. E.g. if it is that there is pressure to deliver, get organized and figure out the steps you need to take to provide this outcome. It might be challenging in the beginning, but when you accomplish it there will be a lot of satisfaction and plus next time you will be able to do it easier. 

Good luck and remember that things can always get better

SensibleSarah

I've also been there. Several times in fact. 

I've generally tried to give it as good a shot as possible, if only because it looks better on your CV if you stay somewhere for at least a year, but on two occasions I've had to find another role at around the 9-month mark as the negative impact on my mental health was not worth sticking it out any longer. In both these situations, I knew a few weeks in that this wasn't really the right place for me, but as a single income household, you have to do what you have to do sometimes, for a period of time at least. I also felt that I owed it to my employers to give it as good a go as possible.

My advice would be to start looking for something else while also seeing what you can do in the meantime to make this new role more bearable and productive. 

tuck60

Thanks all. 

It's just a bit of a chaotic place with no real process or guidance. I am trying to do what I can and be positive and will of course continue to do my best and give it time before making a rash decision.