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stu12345_2 said:how does an ex husband tie you to live where you are, im 650 miles from ex wife and the further the better , and we are in the UK
the only thing that legally prevents you moving is if you are moving abroad with his children and he has to agree to that.
I originally moved 100 miles from her and had access to my daughter, but it was up to me to do the journey to collect her fortnightly, then I decided I'm moving far south coast , new job, new home, new partner and that was that.
ex wife could not stop me, just meant I saw my daughter less.
as kids grow up , they start to become "annoyed" with mummy or daddys access rights, soon they will rather spend every weekend with their school friends hanging out and about.
then comes the point where they decide when they want to see you, when they're not too "busy"Mama read so much about the dangers of drinking alcohol and eating chocolate that she immediately gave up reading.0 -
To my eyes, the steps you've taken seem good. It's a shame about the workplace loan, but I don't think there's much way around that. Keep building up an emergency fund while you wait for defaults to happen and good luck0
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stu12345_2 said:how does an ex husband tie you to live where you are, im 650 miles from ex wife and the further the better , and we are in the UK
the only thing that legally prevents you moving is if you are moving abroad with his children and he has to agree to that.
I originally moved 100 miles from her and had access to my daughter, but it was up to me to do the journey to collect her fortnightly, then I decided I'm moving far south coast , new job, new home, new partner and that was that.
ex wife could not stop me, just meant I saw my daughter less.
as kids grow up , they start to become "annoyed" with mummy or daddys access rights, soon they will rather spend every weekend with their school friends hanging out and about.
then comes the point where they decide when they want to see you, when they're not too "busy"
Baby Step 6/7 - £64000 saved for emergency fund DEBT FREE !!!
Currently Negotiating with HMRC !2 -
stu12345_2 said:just meant I saw my daughter less.Statement of Affairs (SOA) link: https://www.lemonfool.co.uk/financecalculators/soa.phpFor free, non-judgemental debt advice, try: Stepchange or National Debtline. Beware fee charging companies with similar names.4
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that's what happens when marriage fails, my access rights were mutually agreed with ex, but we also agreed we could both move anywhere, except out the UKpay your debt at your rate.not what the creditor demands.cos they have no power.they aren't the police.0
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stu12345_2 said:that's what happens when marriage fails, my access rights were mutually agreed with ex, but we also agreed we could both move anywhere, except out the UK
In this case moving to a new part of the country and having to find a new home, new job and new schools leaving behind friends and support networks, even if supported by the other parent is unlikely to be the answer.0
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