Question for those already retired - how did your holiday and entertainment expenses evolve...?

older_and_no_wiser

It's probably because women will receive dozens (if not more) messages from men. They will be able to be very picky or they may not have time to respond to them all.

Wow. How depressing for us men then! 

kinger101

katejo said:

westv said:

older_and_no_wiser said:

katejo said:

 I did try dating apps but got nothing good from them. 

I know! What is the problem? This is probably for another forum but what does one have to do to get responses from people? I've sent over 40 messages to ladies in my area on one very well known and established app and not a single reply! I'm very courteous and friendly with my messages. I take time to write them. Each one is different. I have a good comprehensive profile with nice photos. I think I'm a decent catch (I'm on this forum haha),  look young for my age etc. It really is soul destroying.

It's probably because women will receive dozens (if not more) messages from men. They will be able to be very picky or they may not have time to respond to them all.

It's a long time since I did it but, when I did, I had a distinct impression that they had a shortage of women members. I was matched with men who simply didn't match the criteria/interests/age range  which I had added to my profile. 

Are you telling me the random photographs of a man on a riverbank holding a big fish they'd caught didn't impress you?  Of for those upping their game, standing next to a cardboard cut-out of a B-list celebrity.

maman

I think my answer to original question is that it doesn't matter how much you spend on holidays, eating out or entertainment provided you are happy and living within your means. I'm a great advocate for people spending their hard earned however they wish.

I envy those who have decent eateries in their areas. Here things have deteriorated massively since Covid. I echo the poster who said eating healthily is difficult. Pubs locally seem to have burger flippers rather than chefs, meals are mostly deep fried and/or padded out with bread or pastry, vegetables are very thin on the ground. Mediocre pub meals around here cost about £70 per couple for two courses with drinks. We do have a super Italian but the food is rich and hugely expensive so for special occasions.

We tend to eat out with friends a couple of times a month but rarely fancy eating out as a couple as an alternative to eating at home. We share the cooking so don't feel the need to have someone cook for me. 

I got a bit reclusive during lockdown, got used to staying home. I had to make a big effort to get out afterwards. Fortunately now we've taken up our hobbies again (some individual, some shared), back to seeing friends, back to holidays home and abroad.

As this is a mse thread, I think affordability is paramount but these boards also have posters (like me) who aren't short of money but are determined to get value for money and not be ripped off. 

katejo

kinger101 said:

katejo said:

westv said:

older_and_no_wiser said:

katejo said:

 I did try dating apps but got nothing good from them. 

I know! What is the problem? This is probably for another forum but what does one have to do to get responses from people? I've sent over 40 messages to ladies in my area on one very well known and established app and not a single reply! I'm very courteous and friendly with my messages. I take time to write them. Each one is different. I have a good comprehensive profile with nice photos. I think I'm a decent catch (I'm on this forum haha),  look young for my age etc. It really is soul destroying.

It's probably because women will receive dozens (if not more) messages from men. They will be able to be very picky or they may not have time to respond to them all.

It's a long time since I did it but, when I did, I had a distinct impression that they had a shortage of women members. I was matched with men who simply didn't match the criteria/interests/age range  which I had added to my profile. 

Are you telling me the random photographs of a man on a riverbank holding a big fish they'd caught didn't impress you?  Of for those upping their game, standing next to a cardboard cut-out of a B-list celebrity.

When I first tried it, it wasn't yet done online. All I got was a list of 6 names and a few basic facts about them.

westv

katejo said:

kinger101 said:

katejo said:

westv said:

older_and_no_wiser said:

katejo said:

 I did try dating apps but got nothing good from them. 

I know! What is the problem? This is probably for another forum but what does one have to do to get responses from people? I've sent over 40 messages to ladies in my area on one very well known and established app and not a single reply! I'm very courteous and friendly with my messages. I take time to write them. Each one is different. I have a good comprehensive profile with nice photos. I think I'm a decent catch (I'm on this forum haha),  look young for my age etc. It really is soul destroying.

It's probably because women will receive dozens (if not more) messages from men. They will be able to be very picky or they may not have time to respond to them all.

It's a long time since I did it but, when I did, I had a distinct impression that they had a shortage of women members. I was matched with men who simply didn't match the criteria/interests/age range  which I had added to my profile. 

Are you telling me the random photographs of a man on a riverbank holding a big fish they'd caught didn't impress you?  Of for those upping their game, standing next to a cardboard cut-out of a B-list celebrity.

When I first tried it, it wasn't yet done online. All I got was a list of 6 names and a few basic facts about them.

I remember something like that back in the 80s. Dateline. Does it still exist?

older_and_no_wiser

westv said:

katejo said:

kinger101 said:

katejo said:

westv said:

older_and_no_wiser said:

katejo said:

 I did try dating apps but got nothing good from them. 

I know! What is the problem? This is probably for another forum but what does one have to do to get responses from people? I've sent over 40 messages to ladies in my area on one very well known and established app and not a single reply! I'm very courteous and friendly with my messages. I take time to write them. Each one is different. I have a good comprehensive profile with nice photos. I think I'm a decent catch (I'm on this forum haha),  look young for my age etc. It really is soul destroying.

It's probably because women will receive dozens (if not more) messages from men. They will be able to be very picky or they may not have time to respond to them all.

It's a long time since I did it but, when I did, I had a distinct impression that they had a shortage of women members. I was matched with men who simply didn't match the criteria/interests/age range  which I had added to my profile. 

Are you telling me the random photographs of a man on a riverbank holding a big fish they'd caught didn't impress you?  Of for those upping their game, standing next to a cardboard cut-out of a B-list celebrity.

When I first tried it, it wasn't yet done online. All I got was a list of 6 names and a few basic facts about them.

I remember something like that back in the 80s. Dateline. Does it still exist?

Oh no, that's no longer around

katejo

westv said:

katejo said:

kinger101 said:

katejo said:

westv said:

older_and_no_wiser said:

katejo said:

 I did try dating apps but got nothing good from them. 

I know! What is the problem? This is probably for another forum but what does one have to do to get responses from people? I've sent over 40 messages to ladies in my area on one very well known and established app and not a single reply! I'm very courteous and friendly with my messages. I take time to write them. Each one is different. I have a good comprehensive profile with nice photos. I think I'm a decent catch (I'm on this forum haha),  look young for my age etc. It really is soul destroying.

It's probably because women will receive dozens (if not more) messages from men. They will be able to be very picky or they may not have time to respond to them all.

It's a long time since I did it but, when I did, I had a distinct impression that they had a shortage of women members. I was matched with men who simply didn't match the criteria/interests/age range  which I had added to my profile. 

Are you telling me the random photographs of a man on a riverbank holding a big fish they'd caught didn't impress you?  Of for those upping their game, standing next to a cardboard cut-out of a B-list celebrity.

When I first tried it, it wasn't yet done online. All I got was a list of 6 names and a few basic facts about them.

I remember something like that back in the 80s. Dateline. Does it still exist?

Think it was Dateline or one with a very similar name. Early 90's for me

Sarahspangles

older_and_no_wiser said:

It's probably because women will receive dozens (if not more) messages from men. They will be able to be very picky or they may not have time to respond to them all. 

Wow. How depressing for us men then!  

It’s true, when I was online it was like sifting cvs sometimes - including the cut-and-paste and get-your-name-wrong ones. Followed by emailing and finally meeting someone, just to find no spark at all.

Meanwhile friends and family will say ‘join something’ but I didn’t have time for more hobbies. I eventually met OH (who was 55 at the time) when I wasn’t looking, simply because I’d gone hiking in a different area for a change.

 

katejo

Sarahspangles said:

older_and_no_wiser said:

It's probably because women will receive dozens (if not more) messages from men. They will be able to be very picky or they may not have time to respond to them all. 

Wow. How depressing for us men then!  

It’s true, when I was online it was like sifting cvs sometimes - including the cut-and-paste and get-your-name-wrong ones. Followed by emailing and finally meeting someone, just to find no spark at all.

Meanwhile friends and family will say ‘join something’ but I didn’t have time for more hobbies. I eventually met OH (who was 55 at the time) when I wasn’t looking, simply because I’d gone hiking in a different area for a change.

 

I had one who started smoking during our first  (and only) meeting. I commented that I had asked for non smoking only. His reply was that he only smoked occasionally so it didn't count! He had put non smoking in his profile.

Superdude0499

Jeez. When I bookmarked this thread it was something to do with retirement spending??