Honeymoon Collection Site Alternatives 19 November 2022 at 11:44AM in Weddings & anniversaries 3 replies 167 views

Senseicads

Hi all,

We are getting married next summer but getting the invitations sorted now.  We wanted to include something about no gift being necessary but if you did want to give can you put something towards our honeymoon please as we already have everything we need..or something a bit politer than that, but hopefully you get the drift?  

But the sites we have found either charge a big old fee, or you have to book through the holiday through the site.  We like hunting round for bargains and coming up with our own itinerary and we just want a bit more flexibility.  I thought we could use paypal but it seems their collection pool thing they did a few years back has been stopped last year.  

My partner was like we can just give them our bank details and they can pay into that...but that feels like a bit, well, rude to me...at least on a website they have to go in and donate to it and it looks less like a bank transfer...maybe I am overthinking it.   We did look at collection pot, but then it's the guests that would have to pay a fee to donate on that, and that doesn't seem particularly polite/friendly to ask a guest to our wedding to do either. 

Any advice anyone can give would be greatly appreciated. 

badmemory

Even with a present list you aren't guaranteed to get what you need.  50 years on I am still using the duplicate  sets of measuring jugs & bowls I was given.  I would say a separate account at your current bank with a note along the lines of if you are kind enough to give us cash please pay into this account & ensure that we know who it is from.  This rather than it just disappear in your current account.  If you have a bank that does it you could even name the account wedding present account.  That way they won't think you are using your current account as a business account!

HampshireH

Senseicads said:

Hi all,

We are getting married next summer but getting the invitations sorted now.  We wanted to include something about no gift being necessary but if you did want to give can you put something towards our honeymoon please as we already have everything we need..or something a bit politer than that, but hopefully you get the drift?  

But the sites we have found either charge a big old fee, or you have to book through the holiday through the site.  We like hunting round for bargains and coming up with our own itinerary and we just want a bit more flexibility.  I thought we could use paypal but it seems their collection pool thing they did a few years back has been stopped last year.  

My partner was like we can just give them our bank details and they can pay into that...but that feels like a bit, well, rude to me...at least on a website they have to go in and donate to it and it looks less like a bank transfer...maybe I am overthinking it.   We did look at collection pot, but then it's the guests that would have to pay a fee to donate on that, and that doesn't seem particularly polite/friendly to ask a guest to our wedding to do either. 

Any advice anyone can give would be greatly appreciated. 

We using getting married dot co dot UK

It was free, we planned the wedding on it and they offered a link to a gift site which was also free at the time we put different values and named them different things like trips/dinners etc we planned to do on our honeymoon.

We weren't reliant on any of it but it was lovely to be able to say thankyou to X for helping us swim with turtles for example

It basically acted as a bank account and we cashed it out afterwards

Senseicads

HampshireH said:
We using getting married dot co dot UK

It was free, we planned the wedding on it and they offered a link to a gift site which was also free at the time we put different values and named them different things like trips/dinners etc we planned to do on our honeymoon.

We weren't reliant on any of it but it was lovely to be able to say thankyou to X for helping us swim with turtles for example

It basically acted as a bank account and we cashed it out afterwards

I have just checked out their service, for cash contributions they connect to prezola(where we pay 2%) or the wedding shop (where the guests pay 2%)