Please could I have some advice on what is the normal household income?

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Hello,
Hoping I could maybe please have some opinions and advice. My partner and I have been in a relatively good financial position, with me earning 55k and my partner earning 40k. But the stress of my job has been really impacting my mental health and resulted in me actually attempting suicide a few times. I’ve discussed with my therapist and think it would be beneficial for me to take some time off to focus on myself. But I know my company and if I go on sick leave due to stress, they will find a way to get rid of me. I’ve tried looking for other jobs but have not been successful with anything. I think it’s because I’m really just not in the right mindset and am just really struggling.
My question is, if I’m to take a break and risk being fired, do you think in this climate we could survive as a couple with dog and cat on 40k? Our mortgage is £1400 a month so we would probably need to move but then that might not save us much if we have to pay the new high interest rates?
Hoping I could maybe please have some opinions and advice. My partner and I have been in a relatively good financial position, with me earning 55k and my partner earning 40k. But the stress of my job has been really impacting my mental health and resulted in me actually attempting suicide a few times. I’ve discussed with my therapist and think it would be beneficial for me to take some time off to focus on myself. But I know my company and if I go on sick leave due to stress, they will find a way to get rid of me. I’ve tried looking for other jobs but have not been successful with anything. I think it’s because I’m really just not in the right mindset and am just really struggling.
My question is, if I’m to take a break and risk being fired, do you think in this climate we could survive as a couple with dog and cat on 40k? Our mortgage is £1400 a month so we would probably need to move but then that might not save us much if we have to pay the new high interest rates?
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https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/personalandhouseholdfinances/incomeandwealth/bulletins/householddisposableincomeandinequality/financialyearending2021#:~:text=Median household disposable income in,(ONS) Household Finances Survey.
*"Disposable income is the amount of money that households have available for spending and saving after direct taxes, such as Income Tax, National Insurance and Council Tax, have been accounted for"
It's not to say you can't make it work, just needs careful planning and consideration for all possible events.
Reality is many survive on less than your wifes income with kids. so of course doable.
To take a different slant.
does your employer have decent sick pay/policy?
Being dismissed can be 6 months+ down the line. That's an extra £20k in wages/time to sort a path
also keep in mind you could be doing any other job after you leave, and adding £10-20k to the household income
Surely your company is aware that there is a serious mental health issue here and unless they've got their heads firmly in the sand, recognise their own potential exposure to a claim against them (whether or not such a claim would be valid isn't the point I'm making - it is the fact that you could make one that should be registering with them). I'd check two things: the terms of any sick pay policy (as already suggested above); and whether the company might entertain the idea of a sabbatical, either paid or unpaid, if that might be a viable option?
So, if you have a larger house than most people, your mortgage is bigger. But so are your energy bills, your council tax, the number of repairs you are likely to have to deal with etc. You possibly also have a larger car, and not a 'budget' runner? You'll be used to 'just buying things'. And if they are a bit more expensive, you'll probably go with it. Your leisure life may also be more expensive than average.
None of the above is judgement at all, and I am only guessing and could well be wrong!
But my advice would be that you shouldn't think about 'normal', but about you. Can you see places where you could cut costs relatively easily? There is plenty of advice on this site for how to do that. There will be some things which are easy, others which are more painful, and only you can decide where that line is, and how far you want to go into 'painful' territory.
Do you have savings you could draw on for a bit, to help? And if you're saving them for a rainy day, well, it sounds like it's currently pouring down!
Finally - your mental health is far more important than anything else. The job doesn't sound like it's right for you, but you're hardly on the scrapheap because of that (and I'm so sorry that maybe you think you are). If you do leave that job, there are others out there. By cutting back a bit, maybe using some savings, you can give yourself the gift of time, and you will get a different perspective, and see things that you can't see at the moment.
For context: I took time out when I was 30, after a few years in a job which wasn't right for me. I did a Master's degree in a subject that is no use to anyone, but was really fun and challenging. But, it also gave me time to work out what I want to do when I grow up (!!) To be honest, now in my 50s, I think I'm still working on that, but I'm a lot closer to it than I used to be.
Good luck, and please do take care of yourself, and your mental health.