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Is he paying child support? Is he paying any maintenance to you?1
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No kids are older now0
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If you were divorcing then a financial settlement would be agreed that looked at all assets - you can't look at pension in isolation.janet2300 said:Nothing in writing , all been amicable so far but I didn’t want to say that I’m due half and cause issues if I’m not.
If you are not going to get back together, then I would suggest that this is a good time to do a financial settlement - which includes all assets house, pension etc.
If you don't want to do that, as you are worried you might have to sell the house if the settlement arrives at a 50/50 split - you may have to say farewell to half of whatever he draws down.
You can't have 50% of his pension and 100% of the house ( unless this is the financial settlement ).
If he's "mentioned" that he's drawing down - perhaps you should casually enquire why he's doing that and if you and you child will benefit from it - see what his reaction is.1 -
I agree, otherwise he is essentially spending your joint assets. You cannot ask for a share of assets he has already spent.DE_612183 said:
If you were divorcing then a financial settlement would be agreed that looked at all assets - you can't look at pension in isolation.janet2300 said:Nothing in writing , all been amicable so far but I didn’t want to say that I’m due half and cause issues if I’m not.
If you are not going to get back together, then I would suggest that this is a good time to do a financial settlement - which includes all assets house, pension etc.
If you don't want to do that, as you are worried you might have to sell the house if the settlement arrives at a 50/50 split - you may have to say farewell to half of whatever he draws down.
You can't have 50% of his pension and 100% of the house ( unless this is the financial settlement ).
If he's "mentioned" that he's drawing down - perhaps you should casually enquire why he's doing that and if you and you child will benefit from it - see what his reaction is.
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