Seperation

atush

Is he paying child support?  Is he paying any maintenance to you?

janet2300

No kids are older now

DE_612183

janet2300 said:

Nothing in writing , all been amicable so far but I didn’t want to say that I’m due half and cause issues if I’m not. 

If you were divorcing then a financial settlement would be agreed that looked at all assets - you can't look at pension in isolation.

If you are not going to get back together, then I would suggest that this is a good time to do a financial settlement - which includes all assets house, pension etc.

If you don't want to do that, as you are worried you might have to sell the house if the settlement arrives at a 50/50 split - you may have to say farewell to half of whatever he draws down.

You can't have 50% of his pension and 100% of the house ( unless this is the financial settlement ).

If he's "mentioned" that he's drawing down - perhaps you should casually enquire why he's doing that and if you and you child will benefit from it - see what his reaction is.

NedS

DE_612183 said:

janet2300 said:

Nothing in writing , all been amicable so far but I didn’t want to say that I’m due half and cause issues if I’m not. 

If you were divorcing then a financial settlement would be agreed that looked at all assets - you can't look at pension in isolation.

If you are not going to get back together, then I would suggest that this is a good time to do a financial settlement - which includes all assets house, pension etc.

If you don't want to do that, as you are worried you might have to sell the house if the settlement arrives at a 50/50 split - you may have to say farewell to half of whatever he draws down.

You can't have 50% of his pension and 100% of the house ( unless this is the financial settlement ).

If he's "mentioned" that he's drawing down - perhaps you should casually enquire why he's doing that and if you and you child will benefit from it - see what his reaction is.

I agree, otherwise he is essentially spending your joint assets. You cannot ask for a share of assets he has already spent.