Ex won't sign consent order

Thrugelmir

V2001 said:

She just ignoring to sign it now but was the one asking for it in first place. I don't understand these women.
I don't know what she would agree to as she won't respond to anything and is playing games once again.

Perhaps she's received legal advice and changed her mind. People play games for a purpose. 

V2001

The thing is first she wanted something from me and I said no because we was married for around 3 months only and she didn't contribute to anything, no joint assets etc.  Then she was the one that asked initiate and get a clean break drafted but this time saying she doesn't want anything. Now gone quiet and won't respond. However I'm keen on the clean break.
FYI this isn't a divorce it's a annulment of marriage, with no kids etc.

tightauldgit

V2001 said:

The thing is first she wanted something from me and I said no because we was married for around 3 months only and she didn't contribute to anything, no joint assets etc.  Then she was the one that asked initiate and get a clean break drafted but this time saying she doesn't want anything. Now gone quiet and won't respond. However I'm keen on the clean break.
FYI this isn't a divorce it's a annulment of marriage, with no kids etc.

If she's not going to agree and won't engage in discussions then a court order is the only way out of it. Get it started ASAP. There's nothing to stop you still coming to an agreement between the two of you during the court process anyway. 

In all honesty if you are sensible and diligent you don't need a solicitor at this stage just file the application with the court. 

That on its own may be enough to get her to agree the consent order.

I would be surprised if a 3-4 month marriage (with no kids presumably) resulted in any split of assets so she's not going to gain anything by going to court.

GDB2222

I may be wrong about this, but the OP says in another thread that he acquired a property during the marriage. That was from his dad, in October 2021, and decree nisi was Dec 21. That appears to be the house that the couple lived in together. 

 That might complicate the financial situation?

In any case, I don’t see any incentive for the ex to agree a consent order that gives her nothing, even if that is realistic. Maybe, the op needs to be a bit more generous? You could say that that is giving in to blackmail, but it’s also being practical.

tightauldgit

GDB2222 said:

I may be wrong about this, but the OP says in another thread that he acquired a property during the marriage. That was from his dad, in October 2021, and decree nisi was Dec 21. That appears to be the house that the couple lived in together. 

 That might complicate the financial situation?

In any case, I don’t see any incentive for the ex to agree a consent order that gives her nothing, even if that is realistic. Maybe, the op needs to be a bit more generous? You could say that that is giving in to blackmail, but it’s also being practical.

The reason to agree a consent order that gives you nothing is a) to protect yourself from any future claims and b) to avoid the lengthy and potentially costly legal process of obtaining a financial order through the courts in a contested case. 

Any property either owns would be considered in any court proceedings but I struggle to see that a 4 month marriage that is being annulled gives either party claim on anything as marital assets. Of course you never know until you are in front of a judge. 

V2001

There was no children during this 4 month marriage.

property was half gifted to me 5 years before marriage by parent. So during marriage I owned the property jointly with my parent.
I then bought the remaining half from parent after separation from the ex.
The ex never contributed anything to the house, no bills, mortgage etc.

I am not willing to give the ex anything she caused me nothing but issues during 4 months of marriage. Nor do I want anything of hers...
How do I initiate court proceedings without solicitor to get this draft consent order signed of. I just want future protection, so what application needs to be filled.

Currently she isn't contesting anything, just ignoring everything.

74jax

Did you marry in Jan 21?  I'm not sure where the 4 months marriage is, if you have just filled the absolute?

A timeline would be good.

Is this right?
Joint house with parents 2016.
Married and ex moved in to house Jan 21.
Ex moved out March 21.
Divorce started July 21.
Nisi granted Dec 21 (delayed from Oct 21).
Changed to an annulment in Feb 22.

V2001

74jax said:

Did you marry in Jan 21?  I'm not sure where the 4 months marriage is, if you have just filled the absolute?

A timeline would be good.

Is this right?
Joint house with parents 2016.
Married and ex moved in to house Jan 21.
Ex moved out March 21.
Divorce started July 21.
Nisi granted Dec 21 (delayed from Oct 21).
Changed to an annulment in Feb 22.

Married Oct 2020. She left me officially Feb 2021 and we separated. She returned to her same family home.
Applied for annulment but due to covid delays decree nisi was later granted in Feb 2022. Absolute applied for April 2022.

My Joint house with parent was half gifted to me in 2016 before marriage. I purchased the other half of this house in September 2021 to become sole owner. The purchase was made after  separation by me.

Ex never cohabited with me before marriage.  She worked before, during and after marriage, and so did I.
We had no joint assets together and she didn't pay for any bills etc when with me.

She left because my sole parent had a brain tumour and didn't want her to remain in house. I couldn't kick my parent out or leave them to suffer alone without care, so ex gave me choice that she will leave, so I let her.

Before marriage ex was fine with my parent and understood I couldn't move any time yet. 2 weeks after marriage she started causing hell and the drama began.
I can't loose house to ex because it's all I have and I look after sole parent who has now recovered from brain tumour after op.