Ex won't sign consent order

V2001

Had a short marriage of 4 months. Got the marriage annulled.  Decree nisi was obtained.
The ex then out of blue asked for a clean break consent order and asked my solicitor draft it up. So we obliged and I filled in d81. Now ex won't sign the consent order nor exchange d81 and refusing to do so. She keeps playing games and I believe this was intentional for me to waste more money with solicitors. 
We never had no assets together or children.

Today I filed for the absolute as solicitor said no harm to do so, considering also she now won't sign consent order she wanted.

Can I enforce the consent order? What would need to be done. Can a notice to show cause be done? Is the process expensive. I do t want it to drag on just want piece of mind and move on

74jax

Right from the beginning of all your threads the clean break order was a bone of contention. And subject to many questions on here. 

You have a solicitor, and you pay them for their legal advice. As has been said in all your threads, we are all 'just the public', you have a solicitor who has dealt with this from the start, when it was going to be a divorce and then an annulment.

We don't know the complexity, your solicitor does. They will have facts, we are just speculating. 

GDB2222

"Can I enforce the consent order?"

There is no consent order. Just a draft that you have produced and your wife doesn't agree to.  

Maybe you should find out what she would agree to, then redraft it accordingly? Maybe, she'll keep moving the goalposts, even then?

V2001

The clean break was saying as it's just a short marriage of few months and no joint assets, so everyone should leave with what they bought to marriage and retain their own assets. 
She just ignoring to sign it now but was the one asking for it in first place. I don't understand these women.
I don't know what she would agree to as she won't respond to anything and is playing games once again.

Can I get the consent order enforced via a judge? I would speak to my solicitor but she's away for 2 weeks now. Just trying to gauge on others knowledge and experience.

GDB2222

Well, of course you can go to court, and the judge will make whatever order he see fit. He won’t take  much notice of your draft order, as your wife has not agreed to it. She might well turn up at court and put her side of things. 

The thing about court hearings is that you get a judgment, and you bring an end to all the prevarication. But the judgment may not be as you want.

You would need an estimate of fees from your solicitor. The point about a consent order is that it is far cheaper than arguing it out in court.  Have you tried mediation?

V2001

No haven't tried mediation just keep getting ignored by her now. She doesn't respond to my solicitor either so not getting anywhere

GDB2222

So, you have a choice. Spend loads of money going to court. Or stay married. 

You might try being relaxed and cool about it. Simply put the divorce on hold for a year. These days, what difference does it make? And, then see whether she is open to calm discussion when things are less stressful.

V2001

We no longer married as solicitor filed the absolute. She said there's no harm in doing it and doesn't put me at any disadvantage.  She said it actually protects me better by doing absolute now. 

Yea I was just hoping there's a easier way to get a clean break and walk away with what we have without going court...

GDB2222

I don’t know the lady, but perhaps that in itself has upset her. You might want to get this all tidied up, but emotionally she may still be grieving over this relationship ending, and that was the final straw that broke the camel’s back.

74jax

GDB2222 said:

I don’t know the lady, but perhaps that in itself has upset her. You might want to get this all tidied up, but emotionally she may still be grieving over this relationship ending, and that was the final straw that broke the camel’s back.

@GDB2222 There's various threads on this, they got married early 2021 (from what it appears), split after 3 months and the nisi was due in July 2021 but got delayed to December 2021. 

OP owned his own home before they got married. They didn't live together before marriage.  They got married and it didn't work out.  I think the ex moved out and hadn't been living in the matrimonial home for the last year.

It's hard when it's all split over several threads, solicitors have been involved from June 2021.

It appears the ex wants some is the house, despite only living together after marriage and only for 3 months. 

GDB2222

74jax said:

GDB2222 said:

I don’t know the lady, but perhaps that in itself has upset her. You might want to get this all tidied up, but emotionally she may still be grieving over this relationship ending, and that was the final straw that broke the camel’s back.

@GDB2222 There's various threads on this, they got married early 2021 (from what it appears), split after 3 months and the nisi was due in July 2021 but got delayed to December 2021. 

OP owned his own home before they got married. They didn't live together before marriage.  They got married and it didn't work out.  I think the ex moved out and hadn't been living in the matrimonial home for the last year.

It's hard when it's all split over several threads, solicitors have been involved from June 2021.

It appears the ex wants some is the house, despite only living together after marriage and only for 3 months. 

So, the OP has drafted his version of what he'd like in a consent order, ie nothing for the spouse. The spouse clearly doesn't agree, and wants more. So, either they will have to compromise, or they will have to battle it out in front of a judge. 

At the moment, ignoring costs, I can't see what incentive there is for the spouse to accept nothing as a divorce settlement. So, if the OP wants to avoid court, he'll have to grit his teeth and make it worth her while.