Just Being Oversensitive?

Saga

I can't help feeling my direct line manager of more than 5 years has for some reason suddenly turned on me but I have no idea why. her behaviour to me changed roundabout christmas. i have no idea what i've done wrong. crucially her behaviour towards others hasn't changed.

Examples:

 - she now never says hi or good morning to me, but she does to other people including those she doesn't manage

 - she now avoids eye contact when passing my office

 - now very rarely speaks to or emails me - just a single catch up meeting at the start of each week and she never really contributes much or provides much support

 - unbelievably she now never lets me know when she is on leave, but she lets her other reports (direct and indirect) know. I only find out by accident

 - when I brought it up with her, her attitude is that she seems to think its perfectly acceptable that other team members simply ignore my requests and emails

 - stopped me going to daily briefing meetings despite my role being closely linked to the team's activities

 - often see and hear her chatting to other team members before she/they leave and wishes them goodnight or good weekend. she now never does this with me

 - latest thing was she was late for our meeting so I went to her office which she shares, knocked on the door said good morning and waited...and waited... and waited... she didn't even look round but everyone else in the office was looking to me and then to her and back all embarrassed not knowing what to think. after a minute I just walked away. about 10 minutes later she turns up and says we have a meeting. no apology or anything

I dunno if am just being oversensitive.  more than anything it's her change in behaviour towards me that is really not very nice rather than the behaviour itself. i actually dread going into work now, just feels so unpleasant.

[Deleted User]

Unfortunately, this sort of thing happens.

The important thing is to make sure you stay professional so that she can't use anything against you. You need to either develop a thick skin or move on.

Dakta

Focus on being professional and doing a good job, and try not to care too much as long as you can get stuff done. (You can try and go through the grievance procedure if you can't).

Pretty much every office has a plank, sometimes there's more than one and the main thing is, the thing that tends to matter in the long term is that you aren't it.

TELLIT01

The OP needs to concentrate on the factors which directly affect the job and speak to their manager about those.  For example, being excluded from meetings, and saying it's acceptable for others to ignore your work related e-mails.

Somebody choosing not to communicate on a personal level such as not saying 'Good Morning' is not something you can do much about.  Unfortunately I have known many managers over the years who seemed to think it a sign of weakness to apologise for anything.  Their view is that their time is important but nobody else's is.

Alfrescodave

Do you have a one to one performance review planned within the next few months? This is when your manager might enlighten you as to her behaviour towards you (be ready for this as it might come as a shock). 
If she isn't forthcoming then its your opportunity to ask her what has changed as obviously you cannot go on like this.

Brie

Not sure what's going on here, but if I may, I'd like to get back to the OP....

You need to think back to what was going on just prior to the manager's behaviour changing.  Was there a Christmas party and things got out of hand?  Did she get told something (true or not) that has shocked/frightened her?  (like someone said you love her or hate her - even if you have never said or felt those things).  Or did someone in her life comment about you that has made her jealous?  (her hubby thinks you're good looking or he manager thinks you're promotable?)

Is there someone else in the office that has noticed this behaviour and will talk to you about what's happening?