Friends Birthday - Covid

I contacted my friend as it's his birthday today and suggested meeting up (for the first time in 2 years) and having a catch up face to face for a change and grabbing a bite to eat  tomorrow.

He took a lateral flow test and texted me the confirmation of a negative result and insists I do the same. Firstly, he's at a slightly higher risk than average but was never shielding.

Frankly I don't particularly mind taking a test but feel insulted by him insisting I text him the Government confirmation that I tested negative. I've known the guy for over 25 years and feel that if he wont take my word it now is he much of a friend? Like him I'm triple vaccinated - over 2 weeks ago and I've also had COVID late last year so should have as much immunity as is possible.

Should I do it and keep tell him I'm offended, do it and say nothing or indeed refuse and stay home?

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  • I think you have answered your own question. If he cant take your word for it....?
  • JJC1956
    JJC1956 Posts: 328 Forumite
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    1882 said:
    I contacted my friend as it's his birthday today and suggested meeting up (for the first time in 2 years) and having a catch up face to face for a change and grabbing a bite to eat  tomorrow.

    He took a lateral flow test and texted me the confirmation of a negative result and insists I do the same. Firstly, he's at a slightly higher risk than average but was never shielding.

    Frankly I don't particularly mind taking a test but feel insulted by him insisting I text him the Government confirmation that I tested negative. I've known the guy for over 25 years and feel that if he wont take my word it now is he much of a friend? Like him I'm triple vaccinated - over 2 weeks ago and I've also had COVID late last year so should have as much immunity as is possible.

    Should I do it and keep tell him I'm offended, do it and say nothing or indeed refuse and stay home?
    Damned if you do Damned if you don’t 
    You have said that you don’t mind taking a test so take one, there are a lot of people out there that are still worried about catching Covid, you have known your friend 25 years, I personally don’t think it is lot to ask, do it and say nothing or Joke about it when you meet him, something on the lines of “I wouldn’t do this for everyone you know”, my post might be a bit late, if not enjoy yourself tomorrow.
  • MalMonroe
    MalMonroe Posts: 5,783 Forumite
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    edited 14 February 2022 at 12:23AM
    It's up to you. Do you value his friendship or not? Can you overlook his understandable concerns about covid? If so, forgive him and do as he asks and meet up for that chat and meal. 

    If you really can't get past this, then I don't think the friendship means as much to you as you originally thought. I have just discovered that, even if you know someone for decades, turns out that sometimes you don't really know them at all. . .  Being friends for many years doesn't always mean that you are close to someone. It depends whether you can accept them, warts and all, or not. 

    Imagine your life without him in it. Better or worse? Then you have your answer.

    PS Being triple vaxxed and already having had covid doesn't mean that you have immunity. 
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  • It's a bit late now as your friend's birthday was a while ago.  But I have always thought that, for example, venues requiring 'evidence' (text message) of a negative lateral flow test for entry was a bit pointless.   You can get a lateral flow test and report it on the government website as negative without even using the test.

    FWIW I went out in the summer with a friend and they offered to drive as we were going some distance.  I offered to take a lateral flow test beforehand and sent a picture of the negative test via WhatsApp first thing in the morning. (And they sent a picture of theirs back too).

    Did you meet up in the end?
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