Marriage counselling !!

jackreacher21

I wanted to know if a couple is having a tough time as mum is going through post natal depression & lock down made it worse. No matter what they discuss l, they end up arguing & she gets more depressed & crying all night out.Couple decided to seek help from professional marriage counsellor. Would a counsellor can involve social service if he/she think her depression level is so high. Al though she has been doing well with s child but not with husband. ?? 

pramsay13

If the counsellor thought there was a genuine risk of harm to the child they may well contact social services. 
You say doing well with child but if mum is depressed and actually crying all night that does not sound like one who is doing well.

jackreacher21

Mum is doing well with a child, doesn’t seem any risk of harm. 

But she looses her plot while arguing with her husband & she does not admit she Is at fault, she starts yelling , crying as being victimized & bang the door and leave the room everything needs o be blamed on hubby . All of these are signs of depression where all she wants to hear is she is right but she does all the work for child and nothing for husband. 

What if she looses her plot in front of counsellor ? 

jackreacher21

pramsay13 said:

If the counsellor thought there was a genuine risk of harm to the child they may well contact social services. 
You say doing well with child but if mum is depressed and actually crying all night that does not sound like one who is doing well.

Mum is doing well with a child, doesn’t seem any risk of harm. 

But she looses her plot while arguing with her husband & she does not admit she Is at fault, she starts yelling , crying as being victimized & bang the door and leave the room everything needs o be blamed on hubby . All of these are signs of depression where all she wants to hear is she is right but she does all the work for child and nothing for husband. 

What if she looses her plot in front of counsellor 

MalMonroe

jackreacher21 said:

pramsay13 said:

If the counsellor thought there was a genuine risk of harm to the child they may well contact social services. 
You say doing well with child but if mum is depressed and actually crying all night that does not sound like one who is doing well.

Mum is doing well with a child, doesn’t seem any risk of harm. 

But she looses her plot while arguing with her husband & she does not admit she Is at fault, she starts yelling , crying as being victimized & bang the door and leave the room everything needs o be blamed on hubby . All of these are signs of depression where all she wants to hear is she is right but she does all the work for child and nothing for husband. 

What if she looses her plot in front of counsellor 

Why on earth is anyone arguing with this poor woman?! This sounds very much like abuse to me. Who is doing this to someone who is post-natally depressed who has a baby to care for? It sounds to me like the husband is at fault and needs to leave her alone. She does not have to do a thing for her husband! Why are you saying that she does?  She needs to do everything for her child and her husband has to look after himself, he's an adult.

If this poor woman loses (not looses) the plot in front of a counsellor it would be the very best thing she could do and then the counsellor could advise her to either see her GP at the earliest possible moment or take her to the A&E department.

Most of all this poor new mother needs removing from the place where the husband is harming her mental health. Now! 

If you are the one antagonising her, leave her alone. If not, please encourage the antagoniser to leave her alone. 

I had a baby and I was also post natally depressed but thankfully my husband was very understanding and supportive. 

This woman needs help, starting off with the GP. And removal of her abuser.