Boss given promotion to someone else

k12479

I don't see it explicitly stated, but presumably this is a private/family-owned business?

james_smitha

It is the same every where, haveing the right friends. Some people have their tounge up the gaffer's behind, some give 'the teacher' an apple every friday

jurgen19

k12479 said:

I don't see it explicitly stated, but presumably this is a private/family-owned business?

Yes you would be correct, it started off just one, then his brother came then his wife, son, nephew, brother in law and so on

Elmer_BeFuddled

If/when the BiL has a week off and you're (possibly) expected to cover this managerial roll, just say you don't feel able to as it is above your skill set/remit/had no managerial training.

TELLIT01

AskAsk said:

just because you have been able to cover a role temporarily to a satisfactory extent does not mean that you are the best person for the role.  and time with an employer does not equate to your ability to perform certain roles and promotion.  people don't (or shouldn't) get promoted simply based on length of service, as some people are long service employees simply because they can not find a job any where else.

i think your feeling that you "have been taken for an absolute mug" is a bit out of proportion and self deserving.

Things can actually be even worse for somebody who has covered a role 'temporarily' even when that period is over 12 months.  A colleague of my wife covered a job for over a year, and was even commended in their annual review for their work.  The job was finally advertised, and when this person tried to apply they were told they didn't have the academic requirements for the role.  Apparently a university degree was essential.  Proof that they were perfectly capable was not acceptable.  The OP feels understandably hard done by, you can imagine how this individual felt.  They did vote with their feet and left as soon as they found another job.

AskAsk

TELLIT01 said:

AskAsk said:

just because you have been able to cover a role temporarily to a satisfactory extent does not mean that you are the best person for the role.  and time with an employer does not equate to your ability to perform certain roles and promotion.  people don't (or shouldn't) get promoted simply based on length of service, as some people are long service employees simply because they can not find a job any where else.

i think your feeling that you "have been taken for an absolute mug" is a bit out of proportion and self deserving.

Things can actually be even worse for somebody who has covered a role 'temporarily' even when that period is over 12 months.  A colleague of my wife covered a job for over a year, and was even commended in their annual review for their work.  The job was finally advertised, and when this person tried to apply they were told they didn't have the academic requirements for the role.  Apparently a university degree was essential.  Proof that they were perfectly capable was not acceptable.  The OP feels understandably hard done by, you can imagine how this individual felt.  They did vote with their feet and left as soon as they found another job.

the OP could certainly express his disappointment at not getting the promotion but i doubt it will get him any where.  he can only vote with his feet if he feels that he can do better else where.

lincroft1710

As you aren't "family" you are going precisely nowhere. So either accept this or move on. Waste of time talking to your employer, nepotism is king in his eyes.

k12479

jurgen19 said:

k12479 said:

I don't see it explicitly stated, but presumably this is a private/family-owned business?

Yes you would be correct, it started off just one, then his brother came then his wife, son, nephew, brother in law and so on

Then, as I see it, you have two options:
1. Accept that you're seen as a safe pair of hands in your current role, progression may be unlikely and certainly not based on merit.
2. Keep your head down, take your time and look for a new job.

A well-run family business would be aware of the potential for these kinds of issues and would take steps to actively prevent them from occurring. A poorly-run, short-sighted one wouldn't. Changing that requires a culture-shift, starting from the inside, at the top. You, on the periphery, are extremely unlikely to be able to initiate that change and are equally unlikely to be thanked for trying.

jurgen19

Thanks everyone for your replies.most of which have been very helpful and insightful. I will definitely take onboard everything that has been said and look at my options. Thanks again guys