Pension sharing order admin costs

Tokay

Hi
I really hope someone can help me.

I recently concluded the divorce financial settlement in court with my ex-husband.  I am 52 and he is 58. After 3 years of solicitors' costs and court costs, he finally agreed to sell the marital home that he had locked me out of 3 years ago after I told him I wanted a divorce.  I agreed to him having everything in the house etc as he would only damage/sell/deny knowledge of anything I asked for.  

All joint debts were settled from the proceeds of the house and my ex was given £10,000 more than me because I could not prove I was not co-habiting.  He also refused to pay half the joint overdraft and to get this all finalised I agreed to pay it from my share of the property.

Finally, he also got 50% of my 1995 NHS pension (not my 2008 or 2015 pension or a previous one from another employer before I met him), despite the fact that he had no pension of his own and which I had been asking him to sort for nearly 20 years.  There were many times when I had to keep him when he left a job and several times (more fool me) that I was left paying the mortgage and all the bills because he had disappeared for several months with another woman.
Today I have received paperwork from NHS pensions requesting half of the costs for transferring 50% of 1995 pension following a letter they received from his solicitor stating I am paying half, approximately £846.78. 

I feel so abused by this whole process, after everything I cannot believe that I have to pay for him to have a half share of my pension, especially after sitting bragging to my solicitor how he was earning £4000 a week.  He is self-employed working as a courier but also has other sidelines.  

Is this correct, it seems so unfair.  How can he come to me for more money??  I was never advised of this at the start, in fact, another solicitor advised me that he would have to pay if he wanted half my pension.

I hope someone can help rather than having to pay my solicitor more money.  
  

Tommyjw

It would have been within your agreement that you pay half, its not automatically the case , it can be any amount / percentage split desired , the Pension Scheme will be acting on the order which outlines the split of fees. 

If your solicitor didn't address this, or advised you he will be paying everything without any agreement , you need to know your solicitor is in the wrong, not your ex. 

Thrugelmir

Forget the money. The sooner everything is settled. The sooner you can move on with your life. Simply a way to impose control on the situation. Suffered personally in a similar fashion. Peace of mind is something that money cannot buy. 

Tokay

Thanks for responding, I really didn't want to pay any more money to my solicitor just to find out. No, I had no idea about this, I certainly did not agree to pay half so he can get his hands on it. Case of weighing up the cost of paying my solicitor to sort it out or paying NHS pensions is far cheaper.  

As you say, I just have to be thankful I am rid of this man from my laugh, the only blessing, we had no children together.

Marcon

Tokay said:

I feel so abused by this whole process, after everything I cannot believe that I have to pay for him to have a half share of my pension, especially after sitting bragging to my solicitor how he was earning £4000 a week.  He is self-employed working as a courier but also has other sidelines.  

Bragging if often just that - boasting about things which are simply untrue. Doing so to your solicitor probably wasn't the best idea, though, if that leads to a suggestion he provided false information on which the settlement was reached.