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I’m new here, I want to vent and ask for advice, is a long one but please head me out...
It all started when J a good looking footballer from my country followed me on Instagram, then asked for my number, we got talking and occasionally video called, at the time he played in France and would always invite me to come see him ( we both have families in France), but I always said no because I was in a on and off relationship with someone else. When he started playing for a team in Austria he kept asking to buy me a plan ticket to go see him, I still said no. This when on for about a year, I broke up with my ex October 2017 so around Christmas me and J planned on meeting in my country. We finally met in a club on his birthday, after the club we went back to his place, before we started having sex I ask for a condom but He didn’t want to use one , I told him no condom no sex. I saw him pic up a condom , light when off, a few minutes after I felt something dripping down. I was angry that he faked using a condom but I kept calm because I didn’t want kill the vibe.
Next day I ask him to take me to the pharmacy for morning after pill, since I didn’t know the city at all , he said no because he didn’t want his sister know ( she is a few years older then us ) I spent the day with him and his sister we got on so well , that morning me and his sister got talking and she started crying and telling me about ex 😂 I think we was still drunk. I managed to get morning after pill by myself two days later.
His sister invited me shopping and to a bar in return I took her to a casino, J didn’t like the fact that I wasn’t all over him and I was losing interest because I didn’t join sex with him , and By New Years I was completely over him ( I didn’t like the way he spoke to his mom at the party ) .
I came back to England 2 weeks later, took a pregnancy test due to my period been late and boom I was pregnant. I told him, and we when back and forth on test for a few days ( he wanted me to have an abortion because he wasn’t ready to be a dad ) At this point I didn’t want to have a baby but I 100% didn’t want to have an abortion and I had the worse morning sickness, I was feeling weak , I had just move to Wales for uni and to start my business , I was stressed out so I deleted him everywhere because I did want him to convince me, I knew i would regret it if I had an abortion.
When I was 6 months pregnant I came back to England after finishing uni to be closer to my mum I didn’t want to have my 1st child away from her, I had to put my business on hold because of bad morning sickness, after moving back home I was feeling more and more positive and excited about having a baby . My older sister convinced me to massage J and tell him my due so I did and he said LOL ciao! I remember crying so much that day, I felt Insulted.
I gave birth to a beautiful healthy boy ( a photo copy of J 😩) , he is always happy and his cheekyness keep me entertain and was ready to raise him alone. When my son was 3 months a friend told me to contact child maintenance because in order to put my son in private school with my small income I’ll need to have at least 2 jobs and no time with my son , I thought about it and put my pride aside and call child maintenance then I was told to contact Remo . It was straight forward, I filled out the application form ( Js full name , dob, address/ work address is fine too thank god for google search ) , send evidence, my son birth certificate, bill, rent agreement ect.
30 days late a lawyer from Austria call me and said she is my case working , asked for doctor letters stating when I got pregnant and texts between me and j when I got pregnant, I emailed it to her and she said It would take long because they will need to find a translator ( J and I speak in French )
In November 2019 I got an email from my lawyer saying the court had summon J to take a DNA test and me and my son had to take on too , and gave me the Austria embassy clinic number to book a DNA test so I did. I when back to my country to open a boutique ( I’m not rich it’s a lot cheaper there ) anyway guess who I see on a night out ??
I was going toilet when I got pulled by a musician i met on my last visit in summer. Next thing I known I’m dancing and singing along with musician then he tried to introduce to everyone at the V.I.P, Boom i see J . It was like he come out of nowhere because I wouldn’t have gone to the table if I knew he was there. I wanted to run but I was thinking I didn’t do anything wrong if anything he should be embarrass so I stayed and At one point we was face to face ( a table between as ) singer along to my musician friend latest hit, yes he 100% saw me , i was the only person with orange hair plus when I was leaving he’s friend followed me to make sure I got in a safe taxi. Me, my mum and sister thought he will surely message me after seeing me , nope nothing, even doe he knew About the DNA test.
I kept in contact with his sister, she tried to make him do the write thing a few time but she told me he always get angry and even told he’s mom he is not the father of my son and she believed him, just because he the family ATM nobody wants to upset him. I get so frustrated, when I see the sister posting pictures of her two kids with their grandma. Js mom take her other grandkids to see J playing football, and he buys them Gucci , while his son wears primark and George’s. 🤬
A few weeks ago I got an email from my lawyer saying J had been summoned the Austria court to do the DNA test 3 times a he refused so next time he will be escorted by the police. His sister messaged me saying he took the DNA test, Im so inpatient... it’s one thing saying you are not ready but lying to your mom really !!!!!! me off. I want to be a fly on the wall when he gets the results better yet tell his mom. I don’t see a lot of remo Success story here but hopefully this is one of them .
Wooow I feel great after letting it all out..
•I just want to know what laws will apply when it comes to child maintenance! Uk or Austria ?
• I was told by my lawyer that J will have to back pay from when my son was born, he is nearly 2 ! Will the back payment be a big one-off payment or small separate payments??
• in Austria law there something called luxury limits for paying parents making a lot of money and they have cover the child accommodation, is it the say in the uk ??
• i live in a 1 bedroom council flat, my son is big enough to have his own room , I’m bidding for a two bedroom but nothing guarantee a nice area with a garden, my lil one is full of energy I need a garden. So would J have to put something towers a two bedroom in addition pay child maintenance.
I had my flat years before having a baby and I was never late on my bills and rent , since having a baby I’m always behind on rent. Just want to give my son the best by raising him in a nice area, put him in the best school so it will eventually open doors for him🙏🏾