Upcoming Marriage, Relocation and impact on employment

THEV1LL4N

Hi, is anyone else due to be married soon which requires them to relocate to another city and thus give notice of resignation?  My partner has to give 3 months notice, which means that in order for to be available for the wedding festivities and traditions, she must hand in her resignation in a couple of weeks.

With COVID-19 taking precedence over everything right now, this causes implications for job-hunting, which she would normally have already started doing and have had some interviews lined up had it not been for COVID-19. But it seems that this is proving to be really difficult due to the current situation.  This leaves her with a lot of uncertainty surrounding her future, not knowing how long she will be out of work for and without an income.

Is there anyone else that is going through the same situation or similar and can offer some advice or insight?

Dox

Have you considered doing what many others are doing and postponing the wedding?

THEV1LL4N

Dox said:

Have you considered doing what many others are doing and postponing the wedding?

At present we have not heard anything from the venue or any of the partners, suppliers etc regarding cancellation or postponement.  On this basis, the wedding date for mid-September is still scheduled to go ahead.  It is the three months' notice coupled with the fact that COVID-19 has had such a massive impact on everything (especially employment and the economy) that is making things really difficult.

We are remaining hopeful that the number of cases will be contained, lockdown measures extended a little longer until we see a sustained decline in incidence and mortality rates.  I am sure there are others in a similar situation.

Dox

THEV1LL4N said:

Dox said:

Have you considered doing what many others are doing and postponing the wedding?

At present we have not heard anything from the venue or any of the partners, suppliers etc regarding cancellation or postponement.  On this basis, the wedding date for mid-September is still scheduled to go ahead.  It is the three months' notice coupled with the fact that COVID-19 has had such a massive impact on everything (especially employment and the economy) that is making things really difficult.

We are remaining hopeful that the number of cases will be contained, lockdown measures extended a little longer until we see a sustained decline in incidence and mortality rates.  I am sure there are others in a similar situation.

From your post, it sounds as if you are currently living in different cities. Has she discussed this with her employer, who must surely be aware that she is getting married to someone who doesn't live locally? Would a possible work round be for her to take a longer-than-usual period of annual leave (or unpaid leave, as the case may be) to cover the wedding period, then return to her job until such time as some semblance of normality returns and she can do some serious job hunting? Far from ideal, but desperate situations call for some radical thinking, however unpalatable.

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I applied recently for a higher-paid job (didn't give any thought as to how they might physically conduct an interview as it wasn't remote working allowable) , I'm fortunate to have a job but if I knew what I should have known in February on a financial level it may have spurred me more although I'm quite morally stuck now I do believe there are jobs out there and besides have to keep reminding myself if I hadn't got out of the last place I'd be furloughed now and so in a much worser state even) the application was dealt with swiftly but I guess we'll see more of these lines:  "There has been lots of interest in the role which means that we more then ever need to be really specific around the skills we're looking for"/meaning we'll no longer interview anyone and everyone! There was another job but that said said we'll only consider applications with the correct experience and we're doing interviews after lock down!  I guess the wave of problems in months to come will be those who hired remotely.
This is a good article and the advice on rest of some of life's where to save given can be a good reading point.
https://sunny.co.uk/good-vibes/taking-a-pay-cut-for-a-new-job/

I remember after the last recession, in 2009 where I worked which involved weddings that started of the whole innovative 999 cut price weddings - certainly had the phones ringing off the hock I can tell you.

theoretica

There is also the option of getting married but not immediately relocating.  Continuing to live apart after marriage and until stability returns or she secures a new job may not be the first choice for her or you, but it is an available alternative to her being out of work and without income.

THEV1LL4N

Thank you all for your responses.  We had considered those options but the difficulty is that she is currently covering for a couple of people as well as doing her own job and training a new starter.  There is currently no work-life balance in place and it is difficult for her - managers don't take any notice and I am disgusted at the lack of consideration for employee mental and physical wellbeing (that's another issue altogether anyway).

The good news is that the notice period appears to have been updated to 1 month, which offers us some more flexibility now and should ease some of that pressure from her.  Thankfully.