New job, is this right?

DCFC79

Ask the employer if they would help you out.

Did you not get it confirmed when your first pay day was ?

DCFC79

Emmar1989 wrote: »

Sorry I’m not clued up on here yet and can’t figure out how to do the quotes thing

Use the quote on which post you want to quote.

Mumoftwobeauties89

Sea_Shell wrote: »

"Completely agree I’ve felt like that many times but in every other way apart from money he is the perfect partner and dad. It’s just how he’s been brought up I guess."

So are you saying that if you lost your job, or couldn't work for health reasons, he'd just financially wash his hands of you?

Is he really not willing to "sub" you for a few weeks?!

I don't really know as I have never been in that situation before. I’m going to speak with him about it tonight but I can’t imagine I’ll get anywhere with it.

Mumoftwobeauties89

DCFC79 wrote: »

Ask the employer if they would help you out.

Did you not get it confirmed when your first pay day was ?

I’m going to speak to personnel tomorrow, no they never confirmed it. It stated the last day of the month in my contract no mention of being paid in arrears or a first pay date etc.

Money_maker

KatrinaWaves wrote: »

I respectfully disagree that anyone is 'in all other ways' the perfect partner when he is doing what amounts to financial abuse, refusing to pay for child related expenses when one is biologically his and the other calls him dad...
Allowing you to build up debts because he will not help you?

I don't feel I can provide much constructive help here.

Absolutely, think the OP has bigger problems ahead than her work payday. Wonder what makes the perfect partner.

suki1964

Being paid in arrears is totally normal. I started mid month so after six weeks I only got two week pay:eek: Hell it was tough, but I got through ( I was single at the time and no kids)

As for your so called partner, he should be contributing , not to your own personal spends, but for what the kids need and what is needed for the household as a whole

The clue is in the word - PARTNER

If your partner is not willing to do this, you need to question if you actually have one, or just some fella who's living the life he wants

Marvel1

Emmar1989 wrote: »

Sorry I’m not clued up on here yet and can’t figure out how to do the quotes thing but KatrinaWaves - no he won’t help. I’ve been in a similar situation before where I started a new job on the last day of the month so had a whole month to wait for any pay and had previously been on benefits which once I started work we no longer qualified for.

He didn’t help then apart from paying house related bills and food, my personal bills and anything to do with the kids was left to me hence the bad credit as I ended up massively into an unarranged overdraft.

Youngest is his, eldest isn’t but she calls him dad / he calls her his due to biological father not being around for years and the amount of time my partner has been in her life.

Completely agree I’ve felt like that many times but in every other way apart from money he is the perfect partner and dad. It’s just how he’s been brought up I guess.

Sorry to derail this thread, but your partner is a waste of space and you need to get rid, you say he is the perfect father, but he won't even provide for the children! Seriously get rid of him.

JP2019

Your partner is a !!!!. I was with a woman like this previously, do yourself a favour and get out of there

honeypop

JP2019 wrote: »

Your partner is a !!!!.

Sadly, I was going to say the same thing. Shame for the OP not to have a partner who'd help out if he could to stop her getting in financial trouble. No excuse for that, except being a !!!!