How long is too long to be engaged.

74jax

Retireby40 wrote: »

Because the wedding is overseas in partners country which involves me organising 20+ guest to come when it suits them and when their kids are not in school to an area where they need connecting flights.

That's why it is slightly more complicated. Also we have a business which runs September to June non stop where we can't be away from it at all so it limits us a little bit.

Guest can organise themselves surely...... I've never had, or expected the actual wedding party to organise me.... :rotfl: including a family wedding in mexico.

You book Your wedding to suit you and your partner. Yes it's good if people can come but you seem to be putting a lot of emphasis on others.

Pick a date in July or August and go for it. In school time may be more expensive. Being abroad is expect half the people you think too.

welshbabe88

The costs of the wedding should be decided and shared between you as a couple - irrespective of what her parents say.

Looks like she has made her mind up for next year already anyway.

Not sure how far it is but will you get your 20 friends to travel that far?

If its in her home town I'd just let her get on with it. otherwise you'll have 2years of wedding talk instead of one!

suejb2

I was engaged 12 years!
You pick a date, your fianc! picks a date. Then pick one halfway between.

HampshireH

We were engaged 9 months

We knew when we got engaged that it meant getting married fairly quickly as we had always discussed not having a long engagement.

If we couldn't have done it that way we would have waited to get engaged.

It's what works for both of you. The whole her half your half is odd.

Surely it's your (as in both of you) half and then the half her made t's have offered to help you both financially.

suki1964

We were married within a year of getting engaged, although it took 12 years to get to the engaged stage :rotfl:

Had no dates chosen, were just planning a holiday when we decided to make it a honeymoon so popped off to the registrars office and booked the first date and time that fitted in with us, about two months

Your wife to be wants the traditional wedding and wedding before children. You live and work abroad. Why not have the wedding ceremony at her home town with just her family and you and your best man, then have a blessing ceremony were you live and work so that all your friends can attend that?

Would really be no different then those that book a wedding abroad and then come home for a party for their friends