Possible negligence in hospital after stroke

TwilightSparkle2019

My parents don't own their property, they have no savings so the cost of a nursing home etc would have to be funded by social services, NHS or jointly funded.

Tbh the state is getting things cheaply with my father caring throughout day and into the evening. Truth is no one actually bothered and I see the way no one bothers to communicate or carry out something... We've been waiting mths for another set of shiny sheets that enable the carers to move my mother better on bed when attending her personal needs.

Honestly that's how it was when they wanting hospital bed back, Dr was like 3 mths maximum to live.. But way it going weeks even days, they were that blunt... You might aswell take her home.

All these events that have happened since well this what is giving me doubts over things not be done right that morning in hospital.

TwilightSparkle2019

I'm going speak to my mum Father about a nursing home and if he agrees ( he's stubborn and his attitude be well I come this far doing it by myself...)

I don't think my mother going be too pleased going into a nursing home but she in such a poor state.

lessonlearned

Sorry didnt realise your mum was in receipt of continuing health care. In that case yes, it puts a different slant on things. Would PALS be able to get involved.

Am I right in thinking your mum also has cancer, as well as suffering from stroke damage, would a Macmillan nurse be able to help.

TBH. You were lucky to get CHC, so many people don't, even though it is a legal entitlement. They messed around so much my mum only got hers posthumously. And it took me 18 months to get my husband awarded it, despite him being paralysed from the neck down. He was just two months from death when he finally got it. I ended up close to bankruptcy, which is how I found MSE.

As for wheelchairs and a stair lift, incontinence pads etc I gave up and bought them myself. I just slapped them on the credit card. I had no choice.

It does sound like a nursing home or a hospice really is your best option now.. Your poor parents.....it's a horrible thing to have to face.

I can understand your dad wanting to provide care but really at 80 he just can't. If he had family close by to share the burden it might be easier but sometimes that's just not possible. My dad was 88 and he did his best but he just couldn't cope. His GP stepped in at the end and forced adult social services to accept responsibility.

I am so sorry to hear how much you are all struggling. It's hard for you too, you must feel so helpless.

Your story reminds me of the struggles I had to find help, both for my husband and then my parents. It was just as bad 5 years ago. Doesn't sound as if anything has improved.

Wishing you the best......

elsien

There two aspects to the care side of things.
Mum is CHC funded, and this should have been reviewed after she came home. If you're struggling and feel a nursing home is the best option then go back to them.
Dad also has the right of have his needs as a carer assessed by the local authority. If this hasn't happened he can self refer. It may get him some respite and support for himself while you look at other options. And they may also be able to help chase things up with CHC if you tell them there is a risk of carer breakdown.