Am I best having been sacked today?

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Had a really bad day, it started with the best intentions of driving all the way into work for once but in bad day event's got caught/held up in an accident on the A12 which made me arrive in the company car park a couple of minutes later. I was getting really angry with myself knowing I'd done Chelmsford and further managing to arrive on time. I can't kick myself anymore about events then I have done.

I freaked (less then a week in the job knowing it didn't look good) and rung the agent (my employer to apologise) regrettably in absolute panic mood I offered to leave as I was just so, so embarrassed (I now know I must seek help with the anxiety that took over) and thought the agent must have realised I was so panic'd as they then told me to get to work, go into the building and that they needed a week's notice out of me. (Question - shouldn't the agent have made me write it out?)

I should have realised when I got parked with ease in the company car park at 09:02 that they (the client) would have known about the hold up, I got into work and immediately offered my apologies for being late to the Manager, turned my phone off, calmed down and thought nothing more about it.

An hour later I get a tap on the shoulder and pulled into a meeting room to advise the agent had been in touch and said about me leaving at which point they said we can 'part ways end of day' (have I been sacked?) I didn't know what to do, whether I would then get done for lying or worse, ruin the agent's relationship with client so I felt I had no choice but to go along (I suspect a little maybe the company wanted rid, appreciate the anxiety issue may have made me less confident, though everyone was lovely and I feel like a lemon but couldn't see how to get around it) although the agent has never been back in touch at all today, as much as it has now put me of agencies, I do feel they could do with feedback that they should have made me put my notice in writing)

Another question is should and can I include this role on the CV. It's getting such a mess is there anywhere I can go for CV help.

elsien

Based purely on your posting history, where pretty much every time someone posts an employment issue you have had the same issue in the recent past, I would suggest it's a little more than your CV that you may need some support with.
Maybe help with the anxiety would be a starting point but it's not usual to have so many difficulties over a comparatively short space of time.

Manxman_in_exile

Two minutes late? Might have been better not to contact your agent. Would two minutes really have been a problem?


If you have underlying anxiety issues, have you sought help? Not being critical personally, but if being insignificantly late (caused by a road accident outside your control) leads you to freaking out, you really need to address it.


Sorry - trying to help and not be judgmental.

[Deleted User]

elsien wrote: »

Based purely on your posting history, where pretty much every time someone posts an employment issue you have had the same issue in the recent past, I would suggest it's a little more than your CV that you may need some support with.
Maybe help with the anxiety would be a starting point but it's not usual to have so many difficulties over a comparatively short space of time.

Jog on and get your kick elsewhere.

[Deleted User]

Manxman_in_exile wrote: »

Two minutes late? Might have been better not to contact your agent. Would two minutes really have been a problem?


If you have underlying anxiety issues, have you sought help? Not being critical personally, but if being insignificantly late (caused by a road accident outside your control) leads you to freaking out, you really need to address it.


Sorry - trying to help and not be judgmental.

Thanks, will seek help tomorrow.

Marcon

Why was being a few minutes late such a big deal for you, particularly as there was a reason (not just an excuse)? You do seem to react very strongly to events (some) others would take in their stride. A bit of help in getting things in perspective could give you a much calmer and happier time of it!

Good luck.

Manxman_in_exile

Deleted%20User wrote: »

Thanks, will seek help tomorrow.

Good for you.


I worked in the NHS and sometimes got quite worked up about things. Good advice I had from a clinician was (something like) "Worry about the things you can have an effect on, don't worry about things you have no control over" (like a road traffic accident making you late for work, or other people's behaviour).


Sounds glib, I know, but I have had occasion to use it.


Good luck.

Kentish_Dave

Deleted%20User wrote: »

Jog on and get your kick elsewhere.

Why the snide comment when someone’s posted something helpful? Given what they said I flicked back through your posts and it does sound as though you’d benefit from some help regarding your attitude, stress levels, reaction to normal work events and so on.

Ozzuk

Kentish_Dave wrote: »

Why the snide comment when someone’s posted something helpful? Given what they said I flicked back through your posts and it does sound as though you’d benefit from some help regarding your attitude, stress levels, reaction to normal work events and so on.

This...if you don't deal with your underlying issues then this kind of thing will keep happening. I have issues with anxiety and a common impact is racing thoughts - I once had to fight an urge to hit a fire alarm before a major presentation because I felt so bad! Its taken time to deal with my issue (exercise, counselling, self help books and sometimes medication, grounding techniques all help) and even though I still have slightly elevated anxiety levels I recognise it for what it is and it doesn't take over.

Astar1809

To address the "put me off*agencies" comment, I am a recruiter and have been for 11 years, we only get our reward/payment for placements either when people stay long enough for us to charge a placement fee (usually after probation) or if a contractor then the fee is a small weekly amount that is only worth it if we make successful long term placements.

I can completely understand the agent not wanting to work with you or even contact after quitting, they have a relationship to maintain with their client and it is only going to be soured by supplying someone who has had a meltdown for comparatively a minor issue. I do understand you suffer from anxiety and this brings its own challenges for you but from the recruiters point of view they will have been working on replacing your position with another candidate and apologising profusely to the client too.

In terms of helping with your CV I am happy to have a look, I don't think I will work in the right circles to directly help you with opportunities (Unless you are a senior manager in the construction industry) but I will be able to give good advice on how to present your history and highlight your achievements.

I am not sure if leaving my work email on here is allowed I will check the rules of the forum and come back.

Comstock

I do have some sympathy for the OP, suffering as I do from anxiety myself.

It's worth remembering for the future that one off lateness of up to five minutes wouldn't normally be an issue in most jobs, especially if you normally get to work ten minutes or so before the start of your shift.

I wouldn't normally phone an agency in this situation, just apologise directly to the client, and start work.