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Boxing Day Dilema

sparklygirl1
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Well my little girl was born on Boxing Day and last year, her first birthday, we had all the faimly over for a buffet and it sort of turned into a late do. This year we hadn't thought of doing anything and I suggested we take our daughter out on her little trike. Which we are getting her for her birthday and then have some fireworks in the evening. Saw my cousin yesterday and she was asking if she was coming on Boxing Day again, said that we prob won't do anything. She was a bit dissapointed and now even thought I hadn't thought of doing anything I'm not sure. Feel like people will want to come on her birthday but then if we do this do you think people will automatically think that we will do this every year? Also not too bad if only for a few hours but family wont have seen each other for a while and will stay forever talking..... Plus we have my cousin coming over to stay with us and people will want to see her too. Advise please.........
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Stick to your guns, or you'll be setting a precedent and you'll end up with them all over every year forever more.
You'll want to do different things each year as things change. And you'll not be able to if you allow this "tradition" to start now.0 -
I once invited the family round on Boxing day.....it went on for years and in the end I just was so brassed off with everyone "expecting" I would do it so I stopped....ooh there was lots of unhappy people about! One year I cooked 45 pounds of roast potatos.....never again! I tell you, there used to be about 25 people at my house and each year they ate me out of house and home and not one of them so much as offered to bring a cake!
Enough was enough.....stand bold and do what you feel!My second favorite household chore is ironing. My first being, hitting my head on the top bunk bed until I faint.-Erma Bombeck-~ Member of the MSE Celebdaq Minileague ~0 -
As someone who doesn't see her family and with only a few in-laws who aren't particularly close I envy you so much.
Doesn't help does it? Could you send out 'invites' of some kind, make it fun but stipulate a time and say something like 'everyone bring a buffet dish' (and be gone by eight lol). Or be upfront and explain what you want.
Hope you have a nice day however it goes, I loved the toddler age with mine at Christmas when they start to get the whole thing.
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My aunt usually has an 'open house' on Boxing Day....most years it ends in a family row.
There is always an argument as to who has taken a bottle of cheap wine....but will only drink expensive stuff or spirits....my uncle goes to bed at about 9pm totally p**d off.
We call in for a couple of hours, or are considered miserable, but make sure we leave before the rows start.
Stick to your guns, you can always have a get together next year if you feel like it.Official DFW Nerd Club - Member no: 203.0 -
My DS was born on Boxing Day and we have always had open house on Boxing Day - we did it once and then it just went on from there!! I dont mind as ds loves everyone coming to make a fuss of him!!! I think if you want to not always do it then you do need to just not do it - its entirely up to you what you want to do!!0
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If you want them round but not for too long could you organise to do something in the early evening so that a the people have to leave? I know this may be difficult with a 2 year old. Alternatively if you do decide to have it then say it is going to finish at whatever time YOU want.
If you don't want them round (in the nicest possible way) then just say you are going to have a quiet and relaxing boxing day. I am sure they will all surviveand if you are only going to do it this year then make it very clear to everyone that is the case.
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How about letting your family know that they are welcome to come between the hours of ? & ? to say Happy Birthday to your LO. If they feel peckish you could tell them theres always Xmas left overs, but if you dont want to feed them then dont include meal times within the times they are invited.
We've had to do this for Christmas day as its our first at home as a family, but all extended family want to come see us, especially as its my LO's first xmas so I've said they can come between 10:00 & 12:30 (after pressies opened, & preperations for dinner almost complete) or 3:00 till 7:00 (dinners been eaten & gone down a bit, & to give an hour for kids to wind down before bed time).You cant take a step forward with both feet on the ground0 -
I was talking to my MIL the other night about Christmas parties. She had one once, all the family around to her house, which turned into the same the next year and it took over 10 years to stop!! In the end she just refused, but now the family argue over who should have it every year - no one wants to do it! So... beware!!
I think the finger would have been pointed at me this year, but I am pregnant and due on 6 Dec - the ultimate excuse :rotfl:0
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