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Colleagues mental health
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It's obvious you care on a human level but I think you need to draw a line and not blur the line between a professional relationship and a personal one, however difficult that might be for you.
She needs space to get better, and that needs to be left to the professionals.“I could see that, if not actually disgruntled, he was far from being gruntled.” - P.G. Wodehouse0 -
I worked in mental health (in the charity sector) for many years, and really appreciate heart-centred actions. And it does sound as if this worker does too (the one who is ill, I mean).
I appreciate that the OP is being guided by her heart and conscience. REALLY appreciate it, I mean. I think it's invaluable to the person who is unwell. My only reservation - and I'm really not one for massive boundaries - is that the OP should be clear that she is being heart centred, if this is in fact the case.
So if the OP wants to keep in touch as a friend (also having the employer's interests at heart and helping the unwell person to return to work as soon and as smoothly as possible) I think she should talk to her manager and explain that she wants to do this, and that it was helpful last time in getting this person back to work. Ask if any of this can be done in work time, and then be clear with the person who is off sick about the basis on which this contact is being maintained. (For example 'I'm here as a friend, HR knows about it and they are giving me some time to see you in work time because they agree with me it is good to keep in touch and let you know what's going on at work'). And, obviously, check with your friend that she is happy for you to keep in touch, or that she has your number for when she is ready to keep in touch.
This also reduces any risk of someone turning round and accusing you of interfering/overstepping the mark/any other bizarre accusation which might be thrown.Ex board guide. Signature now changed (if you know, you know).0
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