Everyone knowing why i was off

betterlatethannever

I was off sick for 2 days recently and i only told the manager what was wrong. Not even my work friends knew.



So I go back to work and other, slightly more immature staff are taking the p*** out of me because of my 'illness' .


Now i told no one apart from my manager.


Is the manager allowed to tell others?

She is very good friends and drinking buddies with some staff so I'm guessing she told them and it spread.

ohreally

Ask her how this became known outwith herself.

TELLIT01

If you are certain that the only way anybody could know is via the manager then ask the question. If you don't get a satisfactory response you may want to take it up the management chain. No manager has the right to discuss the health issues of one member of staff with everybody else.

sangie595

If she told them, then it is quite unprofessional to have done so. But what do you want to happen? They know now. So you can have a quiet word. Or a formal grievance. Would either change the fact? No. So what is it that you now want to happen? Because the answer to that dictates what, if anything, you do.

TELLIT01

If a manager can't be trusted to keep confidential information confidential, there is a problem. If the OP can be certain the only source of the leak is that manager I believe it should be taken further. This time it seems to have been health information which shouldn't have been shared, what if it was business critical information which was being blabbed to all and sundry?

xapprenticex

i can guess what it was. speak to your manager.


maybe after a day, staff were asking what was wrong and your manager said you had an upset tummy and they figured out what it was

sangie595

TELLIT01 wrote: »

If a manager can't be trusted to keep confidential information confidential, there is a problem. If the OP can be certain the only source of the leak is that manager I believe it should be taken further. This time it seems to have been health information which shouldn't have been shared, what if it was business critical information which was being blabbed to all and sundry?

I don't disagree in principle. But it still comes down to (a) did the manager actually tertiary confidential information (the OP assumes so and thinks there is no other way this could have occurred, but there's no evidence to say that is definitely correct, and (b) what does the OP want from this? If it were business critical information, that's the employers problem, not the OPs. But on this occasion the issue is the OPs, and they need to balance what they want to happen with what the outcome might be.

"Dear line manager, you shared my confidential information"; "no I didn't"; "yes you did".....

"Dear line managers boss, my line manager shared my confidential information but I have no proof of it"; " Dear betterlatethannever, no they didn't, they already told you that"....

"Dear colleague, how the hell did you find out what was wrong with me" "Your neighbor told me / I can't recall/ your are bullying me and I'm putting in a grievance...."

"Dear betterlatethannever, please attend a disciplinary meeting next Tuesday for making false allegations against your manager and bullying your colleagues..."

No - it doesn't have to play out like that. But the fact remains that the OP has no proof, only an assumption, so what do they want to happen as a result of that assumption? A revival? An apology? A confession? A disciplining of the manager? And is it worth it? Maybe it is. But the OP needs to decide that on the basis of their situation, leave whether it might one day be business critical information to the crystal ball.

TELLIT01

sangie595 wrote: »

I don't disagree in principle. But it still comes down to (a) did the manager actually tertiary confidential information (the OP assumes so and thinks there is no other way this could have occurred, but there's no evidence to say that is definitely correct, and (b) what does the OP want from this? If it were business critical information, that's the employers problem, not the OPs. But on this occasion the issue is the OPs, and they need to balance what they want to happen with what the outcome might be.

"Dear line manager, you shared my confidential information"; "no I didn't"; "yes you did".....

"Dear line managers boss, my line manager shared my confidential information but I have no proof of it"; " Dear betterlatethannever, no they didn't, they already told you that"....

"Dear colleague, how the hell did you find out what was wrong with me" "Your neighbor told me / I can't recall/ your are bullying me and I'm putting in a grievance...."

"Dear betterlatethannever, please attend a disciplinary meeting next Tuesday for making false allegations against your manager and bullying your colleagues..."

No - it doesn't have to play out like that. But the fact remains that the OP has no proof, only an assumption, so what do they want to happen as a result of that assumption? A revival? An apology? A confession? A disciplining of the manager? And is it worth it? Maybe it is. But the OP needs to decide that on the basis of their situation, leave whether it might one day be business critical information to the crystal ball.

I did say " If the OP can be certain the only source of the leak is that manager..." but once again you choose to ignore that despite quoting my post.

miriamac

betterlatethannever wrote: »

I was off sick for 2 days recently and i only told the manager what was wrong. Not even my work friends knew.

So I go back to work and other, slightly more immature staff are taking the p*** out of me because of my 'illness' .

Now i told no one apart from my manager.

Is the manager allowed to tell others?

She is very good friends and drinking buddies with some staff so I'm guessing she told them and it spread.

You could go to your manager with a set of facts:

- some of your colleagues are making jokes about your illness

- you have never told them about your illness or discussed it with them

- how the joking about your illness makes you feel

- your concerns about how your colleagues came to know personal information which you had not shared with them, and about the fact they are using that personal information in a hurtful manner.

You could also use the last paragraph directly to your colleagues - "guys, you seem to think you know why I was off sick - but you don't, because I haven't discussed it with any of you. But if you're trying to make me sick of your 'jokes', it's working...;)"

gomer

Blimey. Talk about off topic. How on earth did rape come into this??









I have a feeling I might wish I didn't ask.

ViolaLass

1. If you were away, might they not have assumed you were ill? Holidays aside, I imagine it's the most common reason for missing work.

2. Taking the !!!!? Why? Have they never been ill?