Do I let it go or raise it with my manager?

describes

Thanks all.

TELLIT01

Do you have 1-2-1 meetings with your manager to discuss your progress? If so that is probably the best time to raise the issue if it's not something you can simply ignore by continuing to act in a mature manner. If not, you should ask if you can speak to the manager privately, preferably at a time when the problem colleague isn't around. You could discuss the problem in general terms if you don't want to raise a formal grievance at this point.

Brynsam

Ignore it. You seem to be making a major issue out of some silly behaviour; don't even let him see it bothers you. Plenty of other colleagues to mix with.

[Deleted User]

Let it go a while longer. If you ask me the workplaces are getting full and worse of the blame culture (it won't be you but another person's insecurity)

I started my new job last month, working with two under 20 and spent a night, petrified and not understanding, just aware I had apparently 'mugged' someone off with giving them a thumbs up when they had said they went out of their way to avoid answering the phone for many of their first months (I was like !!!!!!!! What should I have said at a lot older and more experienced when I attempted answering calls a lot sooner and didn't want to say anything hence the thumbs up) anyway fortunately they brought it up in front of our manager at which point it got said they were just playing me as in ha ha. ..But I'd admit they really had me at one point. It blow over in no time.

The other one one night said see you tomorrow or not! (as friendly as I can put it) Turns out they feel very frustrated by the job so I was glad I ignored that one.

I do feel sorry for the young ones in a way. I wouldn't let this stress you, I've seen what happens to those that say it, brush it off as quickly as you can.

jonnygee2

Don't go to your boss. If I was your boss I'd think 'this guys trouble' if you came to me in the first few months with a load of personal problems about bad relationships with others.

Just ignore it and work around it, do your own job and hit your own targets.

People haven't been returning him the same sort of praise to him unfortunately.

To be honest you do come across as a bit smug in this post, you seem to basically have said you are much better than he is.

Don't forget there's more to being successful at work than just being good at your job. Ability to manipulate personal relationships around you matters too, and it seems like this is something you aren't very good at yet.

KatrinaWaves

jonnygee2 wrote: »

To be honest you do come across as a bit smug in this post, you seem to basically have said you are much better than he is.

Don't forget there's more to being successful at work than just being good at your job. Ability to manipulate personal relationships around you matters too, and it seems like this is something you aren't very good at yet.

Agreed unfortunately. The way you speak about your age and experience compared to everyone else sounds very conceited and above everyone, yet you’re complaoning these people who pale in comparison to you aren’t helping you... if I were them I’d be thinking ‘why do you need help as you seem to know it all?’

You’ve been there a month and you’ve already decided that you’re better than everyone and they’re all jealous of you because of some eye rolling. I have worked in many places where I have been the most qualified on paper,, but I’d have killed for some of the practical application and general personality of some of my ‘less qualified’ peers as they were much better than me in many ways!

pmduk

describes wrote: »

For the past week this colleague has ignored me and been quite immature by pulling faces, purposely saying they won't help me around others or pretended not to know the answer to someone I heard them answer earlier etc..

The odds are the rest of the team has noticed his behaviour and he's trying to find a culprit to blame. Who knows, he may even have been pulled up about his behaviour to you.

Just carry on doing your job. You're there to work, not socialise, there'll always be someone who isn't you 'cup of tea'

describes

I am sorry that my post has been taken differently to how I intended. It is not my intention to come across as smug nor conceited. I don't believe I am better than anyone else at all. I have not said that everyone is jealous of me either. That is not what I am like as a person and I would much rather get on with work. Simply there is one colleague that seems to have taken an issue with me.

As I said, I don't have anyone I can talk to at home or at work and I didn't want to go running to a manager. I posted because it has been bothering me over the last few days and I wanted some advice. Thanks to those that replied.

jobbingmusician

This forum operates on the basis that people help each other out. Part of the reason people take the trouble to post is so the forum becomes a repository of knowledge, where people can read about how others have dealt with similar problems.


If posters are selfish, and delete their opening post when they get an answer, it ruins this forum potential.........