Resigning

SarahL09

Hi everyone

I need some advice. I recently got a new job which is closer to home for me and I’m going to hand in my notice tomorrow at work but I know my manager isn’t going to be too pleased about it. I was just wondering what’s the worst she could do about it? I have been off sick due to depression and anxiety and recently just returned but while I was off she was very unsupportive towards me and unsympathetic she had me in her office crying and she told me not to cry.. Fancy saying that to someone who is depressed. The hours are better at this new job too. I went on a phased return to work for about 2 weeks and I wasn’t ready to go on a full 10 hour shift and when I told her she basically told me I had to do it otherwise I will get fired.

elsien

She may be pleased that you are moving on and not wanting to do anything that may affect that. (Not due to you as a worker, btw, but because she no longer has to look at sickness and phased returns).

You have a formal job offer from the new place, references done, any health checks complete? If your job offer is still subject to checks, it's too early to hand your notice in.

SarahL09

I hope so. All I’m waiting for is my dbs to come through then I can start

TBagpuss

The worst thing she can do is be unpleasant to you during your notice period.
As long as you give the correct notice for your role, she can't refuse to accept your notice.
If she were to sack you then, unless you did anything justifying dismissal for gross misconduct , she would have to pay you your notice period

TELLIT01

In your situation I would say the worst she could do is say you have to work your notice, and the best would be to tell you to leave immediately and still be paid for the notice period.
She can't do any lasting harm to you as you are leaving anyway, so try to just go with the flow. Turn up on time, do your work and go home at the end of each day. Don't stress about any work related issues as they really aren't your problem any more.

[Deleted User]

Don't let Christmas rosta and such make you feel guilty. I know someone nick named the call centre crybaby, but no one has yet seen her when she is angry

"A wise woman once said: Never stay where you aren't wanted. (If you've the opportunity to go as you have) If you're clashing with your Manager or not getting the support you need, this isn't your problem to manage.
Remember no company will ever be as loyal to you, as you are to it".

jobbingmusician

I am out of touch, but I can remember periods when some DBS took over 6 months to come through. Is anyone better in touch, who can tell me I'm being silly and they are only taking a short time nowadays? Because in the absence of this reassurance, I'd be wanting to tell the new employer that I can't hand in my notice until the DBS is back.

Takeaway_Addict

SarahL09 wrote: »

Hi everyone

I need some advice. I recently got a new job which is closer to home for me and I’m going to hand in my notice tomorrow at work but I know my manager isn’t going to be too pleased about it. I was just wondering what’s the worst she could do about it? I have been off sick due to depression and anxiety and recently just returned but while I was off she was very unsupportive towards me and unsympathetic she had me in her office crying and she told me not to cry.. Fancy saying that to someone who is depressed. The hours are better at this new job too. I went on a phased return to work for about 2 weeks and I wasn’t ready to go on a full 10 hour shift and when I told her she basically told me I had to do it otherwise I will get fired.

They will probably be happy so I wouldn't worry about it

marlot

SarahL09 wrote: »

I hope so. All I’m waiting for is my dbs to come through then I can start

When it comes through, I recommend paying the £13 a year for the update service. You can then produce a DBS instantly - all you need is the certificate and ID to prove who you are.

Savvy_Sue

jobbingmusician wrote: »

I am out of touch, but I can remember periods when some DBS took over 6 months to come through. Is anyone better in touch, who can tell me I'm being silly and they are only taking a short time nowadays? Because in the absence of this reassurance, I'd be wanting to tell the new employer that I can't hand in my notice until the DBS is back.

They are not taking that long for us, but I suspect it depends on factors like how many addresses have to be checked and which police forces cover them.

jonnygee2

I am out of touch, but I can remember periods when some DBS took over 6 months to come through. Is anyone better in touch, who can tell me I'm being silly and they are only taking a short time nowadays?

It depends a lot on the local police services and the type of check. Were they checks on the address by any chance (e.g. for homestay hosts) as these take a lot longer, especially in London where they are glacial. And were they in spring (chaos for DBS checks thanks to all the summer schools).

I'd say two weeks is average, I'd expect the vast majority of checks to be back in three weeks at this time of year and beyond four would be very unusual. A lot of police forces turn them round in 2-3 days.